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Ex-Wife Selling Some Coins
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Went through an unfortunate divorce in 2023/24 where, amongst many other things, I lost 75% of my coin collection. It would appear the ex-wife is selling and/or has sold some of the collection she was awarded as I stumbled across this coin from my collection being auctioned on eBay today. It's a nice eye appealing coin if any of you were thinking about it. Must admit it's kind of weird seeing it again and for sale. Should I buy it back? That would be weird right? Good times...
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Dude, I feel your pain.................
I went thought it............TWICE
Time heals all wounds, trust me, it just takes time
Mike
My Indians
Dansco Set
Why would it be weird? If you want the coin, and it's priced right, buy it.
That is`a nice quarter.
The seller doesn't have very much feedback for a shop that's been around since 1979. That's a little odd.
This thread will be at the top for quite a while.
I agree with @humanssuck ...............If you want the coin, and it's priced right, buy it.
The mere thought of marriage without a prenup makes me shudder…
I liken it to being in a boxing ring, as you must protect yourself at all times.
Life is hard enough without having to deal with that type of crap.
Sorry that you’re going through it and ‘no’ it wouldn’t be weird if you like the coin and you want it back.
Sometimes, it’s better to be LUCKY than good. 🍀 🍺👍
My Full Walker Registry Set (1916-1947):
https://www.ngccoin.com/registry/competitive-sets/16292/
It's a nice coin, if you like the coin and the price the maybe buy it. If you don't you'll probably regret it.
Just seeing that posting up there would stick in my craw and drive me nuts.
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I can feel you and would have similar mixed feelings.
Hmm, I am still mad about the coins my ex-wife STOLE and whose return was in the divorce decree. Never happened and lost a couple of irreplaceables. One has gone from about 3600 to over 30k! Damn! This post reminded me.
Well, just Love coins, period.
How awful!! 😣 I made quite a few purchases around or just after 2020 that have literally doubled during that short period. And of course, gold has really taken off!! 👍
Sometimes, it’s better to be LUCKY than good. 🍀 🍺👍
My Full Walker Registry Set (1916-1947):
https://www.ngccoin.com/registry/competitive-sets/16292/
get another buyer and a forwarder to buy them. negotiate hard
When I got married, we had no assets and a great deal of school debt. When she finally finished school, I went back to school, borrowing more money.
The last thing on our minds was "dividing the assets," since diplomas don't divide well, and we had no other assets.
47 years later, we're still hopelessly in love, so it didn't matter. And we even paid off all that school debt!
I’m really glad that it worked out for you! Nowadays, your story is an irregularity.
Sometimes, it’s better to be LUCKY than good. 🍀 🍺👍
My Full Walker Registry Set (1916-1947):
https://www.ngccoin.com/registry/competitive-sets/16292/
I have an older brother who is going through recovery from mouth cancer in the last couple years, the wife divorced him without cause and he didn't fight for his legal and economic rights "trusting" her to pay him what was fair, now he is in a predicament understandably.
I was in a coin shop a few years ago where the dealer was saying he was going through a divorce and the opposing lawyer did not understand numismatics and their potential high values and he was trying to do all the transactions in cash which struck me as sleazy.
Clearly people collect for many reasons, aesthetics, the pride of ownership, investment purposes, etc.. It is quite unfortunate when people sell what you have collected with an eye to quality without appreciating the hobby.
I feel your pain... sort of. My divorce was finalized about 4 years ago. Before that, I was in a bit of a selling mode myself to scrape up enough cash for deposits on a rental unit , utilities, etc. (in MD you have to be physically separated for at least one year before you can file). Fast forward to now... I'm completely out of debt (ex and I split ~$32k in debt... mostly credit card debt), I'm paying my own mortgage, and I'm looking for the last few coins for several sets...
...there's a Light at the end of the tunnel and, sometimes, it's NOT an oncoming train! Best of luck!
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@humanssuck definitely has the best perspective.
Never getting married, I avoided the whole divorce thing, and from what I have heard, I am better off for it.
reminds me of a joke... "Why is divorce so expensive? ...because it's worth it!"
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My true hope for anyone in your place in life is you do find the love of a true partner and the two of you build a life together whereas you would look back a generation or two from now and cringe at this comment you posted.
peacockcoins
Definitely cheaper to rent than to own. Just the thought of having to give up half (or more) of my collection makes me shake.
Next time, don't share so much information about your hobbies with your wife.
Same here never ever I rather be single with my pet the rest of my life and my hobbies. Stopped dating almost 2 decades ago and it is just me and my peace of mind....priceless!!!
Not weird at all. If you want any of those coins being sold, buy 'em back. Leaving feedback could be interesting though lol!
I was temporarily out of the hobby during my divorce. I only had a few legacy coins from my father that fortunately my ex-wife wasn't interested in.
TBD
A lot of estates I have seen the guy most likely blew out the good stuff way b4 his death.
There is NOTHING better than a great wife!!
I have one of the BEST!!!
Yes some are lucky but what are the odds like 1 chance out of 1000 I will pass let someone else land that ''diamond''. I rather land a rare coin and have peace in my life.
Adam only had so much fun with all the pets before he needed Eve, then things really got dicey. Good Luck out there fellas!
He should have learned and just been happy with his pets and peace...but no he needed to spice things up. I am so glad I do not need any spice of the sorts and just live in peace. I learned at a young age the odds are stacked against most of us.
Anyways good luck to the OP hope you get your coins back!!! My advice stick with your hobbies and pets you will have better success at been at peace and happy.
True... the odds are a longshot. But, even some lucky person manages to hit The Lottery every few weeks and the odds there are something like 300,000,000:1... Perhaps, like most things in Life, it's all about the timing. I started dating my current GF through "Match" after a 30 yr failed marriage. Long story, short... we knew each other from over 10 years ago when my daughter was in ballet. She was one of the other dance teachers at my daughters studio. We're older in life, have many of the same interests and goals, and are each "established" in our own right. We're currently experiencing a bit of "economic turbulence" and she'll be selling her home and moving in with me in the short term. Then, we'll be searching for our "retirement home" together. Sometimes Life has a way of working out...
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Sometimes it does work out (I wish it did more often) I personally have just decided I had enough a long time ago and moved on from that need/want in life. It did not work out for me (multiple girlfriends over years/decades) and I am fine with that (I am not angry nor am I mad. I just had enough). I never found happiness or peace in that area of life (mostly drama and problems) and simply understood it is better just to move on to other things that do make me happy and at peace.
Guess this is the wrong thread to be mentioning next Friday will be my 44th wedding Anniversary. james
Nope, this is the perfect thread! Congrats!
I'm glad you survived the whole thing, some don't. A regular at the local flea market bragged about getting a big collection from an apparent gold-digging wife who brought the collectibles down, six figures, after the "elderly diabetic" died. Happens more often than you'd think.
So much possible intrigue and mystery in OP's title, I was ready to read this thread like a novel.
Me thinks it will stay active for some time
But seriously it is sad to read, I think you are handling it really well considering, that said I agree with above comments if the price is right and you really want it back, go ahead and do it for yourself.
Ever here about discloser.............
Mike
My Indians
Dansco Set
No, I've never heard about "discloser". I have heard of "disclosure"...is that similar?
I suppose you have to play by the rules even while you're getting robbed.
dealer will have to pay fees. find someone to do an in-person cash transaction (who can keep their mouth shut)
Looks like she cosigned to a shop.
Offer her forty cents on the dollar.
Well the label says a DOLLAR.
That one is FIFTY CENTS.
Problem is someone said they were worth more than face value.
item in op was taken down by the seller
the worst part is she went 10 of 10 at cac
In seven days it will be my 37th. Congrats!
USAF (Ret.) 1985 - 2005. E-4B Aircraft Maintenance Crew Chief and Contracting Officer.
My current Registry sets:
✓ Everyman Mint State Carson City Morgan Dollars (1878 – 1893)
✓ Everyman Mint State Lincoln Cents (1909 – 1958)
✓ Morgan Dollar GSA Hoard (1878 – 1891)
Opps,. missed that one
But yes, even when getting robbed...............
Mike
My Indians
Dansco Set
Many years ago I overheard in a conversation state:"Marriage is the first step toward divorce".
My wife is waiting until I make a few more upgrades to my sets before she gives me the heave-ho.
"Funny" how your coins were a marital asset, but her jewelry was personal property.
Rent the wife or the coins?
If you have not found the right women I suggest just you forget about the whole thing (includes renting) and move on and enjoy your life and your hobbies. Be thankful you escaped what most go through (count your blessings).
And congratulations to those who found a rare partner!!! They exist but to rare for my taste. Count yourselves lucky!!!
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Whenever considering making a purchase, leave your ego at the door and decide if you like the item at the price offered, or not.
My most expensive coin has a pedigree to someone whom I, to put it politely, find very distasteful. But the coin is all there for the grade, was priced reasonably, and took me eight years to find, and that's with some help. Think about it.
"Seu cabra da peste,
"Sou Mangueira......."
I went through this similar instance and actually bid and won an item back that my Ex had. She sold it to me, never left any feedback (Better than a negative) send me the item nicely packaged and then proceeded to block my account from any further activity. It's been 15yrs and still blocked! LOL
So there's that if ur thinking of doing it.
Later, Paul.