OT--A very personal message.

CaptHenway · August 24, 2011 12:32AM

Here's some very important advice.
.
One year ago this morning I kissed my wife Jean goodbye, told her I loved her, and
went to work. In the afternoon I got a call, and went home to find her unconscious in the ER. She never recovered.
.
Tell the people that you love that you love them. Make that call. Make that visit.
.
You do not know what tomorrow brings.
.
TD

TPRC · August 24, 2011 12:42AM

Well said. And my condolences for your loss.

lcoopie · August 24, 2011 12:48AM

thanks for the reminder.

Windycity · August 24, 2011 12:49AM

Tom,

Great advice. Hope you are well and know you remain in our prayers.

Pat

agentjim007 · August 24, 2011 12:51AM

Just told her.

OPA · August 24, 2011 12:57AM

My condolences to your loss. I'm sure she is in a better place now.

123cents · August 24, 2011 12:58AM

Great advice. Thank you!

saintguru · August 24, 2011 1:13AM

Live each day as if it's your last. Smell the roses and love the ones you're with.

JB

MikeInFL · August 24, 2011 1:13AM

Tom, What horrible news. You, your wife, and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers....Mike

AUandAG · August 24, 2011 1:16AM

Life is so precious to those in our sphere of being.

Sorry to hear and hope the memories are fantastic!

I kissed my wife good morning first thing upon awakening.

Be well, my friend!

bob

Constantine · August 24, 2011 1:16AM

I am very sorry to hear of your personal story. But it is all so true that life is very fragile and we all should never take anything for granted.

RYK · August 24, 2011 1:22AM

Excellent advice, Tom. Thanks for posting it.

Tdec1000 · August 24, 2011 1:26AM

Tom, sorry to here of your loss. You and your family will be in our prayers. Excellent advice and I will take it to heart. You are right, you never know what tomorrow will bring.

Tom

keyman64 · August 24, 2011 1:33AM

Thanks for posting this. I know I can get caught up in the day's activities and sometimes forget about the truly important things in life. I imagine I am not the only one guilty of this.

atarian · August 24, 2011 1:37AM

Great advice. Sorry for your loss .

MsMorrisine · August 24, 2011 1:38AM

sorry to hear that Capt

Addictedtocoins · August 24, 2011 1:44AM

So sorry for your loss Sir. Will keep you in ours thoughts..

PonyExpress8 · August 24, 2011 1:46AM

Thank you for this very personal reminder of something so important Tom.

UtahCoin · August 24, 2011 1:49AM

My condolences for your loss.

fivecents · August 24, 2011 1:50AM

Sorry for your loss. Thanks for the great advice and prospective.

blue594 · August 24, 2011 1:51AM

Thank you so much for the reminder.

John

Swampboy · August 24, 2011 1:59AM

Thanks Tom.

ricko · August 24, 2011 2:03AM

Great advice Tom.... live the message of love.... Cheers, RickO

RB1026 · August 24, 2011 2:05AM

A brilliant post. I am so very sorry for your loss.

You are exactly right. I tell my gal and my kids "I love them" every time we hang up the phone or part company and we mean it. We never know when the last chance will be. It costs nothing to do and means everything to those you care about.

Thanks for sharing.

curly · August 24, 2011 2:07AM

Sorry for your loss, brother.

Bear · August 24, 2011 2:15AM

A touching remembrance, of a love lost, but never forgotten.

You are a good man and your wife, must have been a very

special woman.

Staircoins · August 24, 2011 2:19AM

I had a similar thought this morning when I hugged and kissed my wife and son goodbye. They are only going up to camp a couple of days before I join them, but I will miss them and I had a brief thought that I should make our parting words ones of love 'just in case'.

Thanks for the caring reminder. Deepest condolences for your loss.

MFH · August 24, 2011 2:22AM

I try to say I love you to those I care about deeply
and this is a very fitting reminder.

Mar327 · August 24, 2011 2:24AM

This isn't something I consider OT - I consider it "life", and something we will all deal with in time, whether a spouse, parent or child is taken from us. I'm very sorry for your loss, and know although you have an ache in your heart every day, today will be extra hard.

Last month my friend, Bob Bruce, died, which I wrote about in here. A month before he died, he and I corresponded alot for a few weeks. He wanted so much to come to Pittsburgh for the ANA show, for just one day, and asked me to have dinner with him. 2 weeks later he said he was just too sick and couldn't do it. He said he'd always valued my friendship (since 1999), wanted me to know that, and told me he loved me. I'd always help him with anything I could at shows, whether I was working for him or not. We had a couple funny stories that were funnier after the fact, including a couple years ago when I saw him last. I knew when he shared his heart with me, he knew his time was short. I was able to tell him I loved him too. Not everyone gets that chance. Not just our spouses or significant people need to be told - we also need to tell our friends what they mean to us. I didn't expect Bob to pass so early, but am so greatful for the emails we shared, and that we could share those few precious thoughts... they mean alot to me now. This was MY personal post, but your message struck me and I had to share.

Life is short. In Pittsburgh a few days ago 4 people died in a 9' flash flood, including a wonderful mother and 2 of her beautiful children, 12 and 8 year old girls. Mom was found in the back seat holding onto them, thank God. The other lady was 72, and she'd gotten out of her car, only to fall into a manhole as she tried to get away. Today are their funerals.

So yes, don't wait and hope to have those last words, say them TODAY.

God bless you CaptHenway.

jmski52 · August 24, 2011 2:26AM

Thanks, Capt'n. I'll have some good thoughts for you, too.

Bankerbob56 · August 24, 2011 2:32AM

<< <i>Here's some very important advice.
.
One year ago this morning I kissed my wife Jean goodbye, told her I loved her, and
went to work. In the afternoon I got a call, and went home to find her unconscious in the ER. She never recovered.
.
Tell the people that you love that you love them. Make that call. Make that visit.
.
You do not know what tomorrow brings.
.
TD >>

Definitely puts all of the nonsense in life in perspective! In the final days, hours, and minutes, what do we really have if not each other....

Excellent reminder to us all.

For this.....

I thank you.

johnperk747 · August 24, 2011 2:42AM

Blessings !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

relicsncoins · August 24, 2011 2:54AM

Sorry for your tragic loss Tom. Very sound advice.

LoveMyLiberty · August 24, 2011 3:10AM

Your message of wisdom comes with age. Your anniversary makes me sad.

Coinsponge · August 24, 2011 3:29AM

That is heart wrenching and anniversaries are tough. Good advise for us all though. Wishing you happier years to follow.

RunnersDad · August 24, 2011 3:36AM

Tom, those are certainly words to live by. I am 29 and have already seen my mom succumb to the effects of ALS at 53 years old and have watched my 5 year old son fight through a very serious neurological disorder. My thoughts and prayers are with and your family on this very difficult day Tom.

mrearlygold · August 24, 2011 3:39AM

Thank you for posting this Tom

MrHalfDime · August 24, 2011 3:42AM

Tom:

I had no idea you were laboring under such a heavy load. My heart goes out to you, and my thoughts and prayers are with you. You offer a very insightful and poignant message for everyone to live by.

SC

rkfish · August 24, 2011 4:23AM

Thanks Tom for taking the time to remind us to slow down and love whats around us and what we have.......no guarantees here.

My heartfelt condolences.......

mikeyg · August 24, 2011 4:35AM

thank you for sharing tom.I learned a similar lesson years ago.Since then I always tell friends and family that I love them everyday.Recently I have begun to say thank you whenever someone does something for me whether its my son taking out the trash or picking up sometrhing for me.

BryceM · August 24, 2011 4:41AM

Thanks Tom.

Cherish every day you have that is a good day. You never know what tomorrow brings.

Addictedtocoins · August 24, 2011 4:50AM

Mar327. Being from Pittsburgh myself, I am still shocked at that tragedy...

okracer · August 24, 2011 4:54AM

Prayers to you and yours.

tahoe98 · August 24, 2011 5:28AM

...please accept my condolences.

jhdfla · August 24, 2011 5:40AM

Sorry for your loss.

Good advice, we are here but for a moment and the only thing of true value we possess on this earth is the love we receive from others and give in return.

The attitude of loving-kindness and compassion towards all beings should be everyone's goal.

DorkGirl · August 24, 2011 7:15AM

Sorry for your loss.

fiveNdime · August 24, 2011 7:27AM

thank-you for sharing and sending an important reminder!

i too have experienced it first hand.

garrynot · August 24, 2011 7:33AM

My deepest condolences on the anniversary of your loss, Tom.

johnny9434 · August 24, 2011 8:06AM

Thanks for posting something important like that. If you didnt tell someone that you love them today, it maybe a good time to do it

littlebear · August 24, 2011 10:12AM

This post is what I consider my second "wake-up" in as many weeks. I took my son for surgery at Children's Hospital of Philadelphia on Tuesday. When you see kids in wheelchairs with no legs, or no hair from cancer treatments, and every other imaginable ailment, it completely overwhelms you. I emotionally told my wife: "There but for the grace of God." Tom, I do not consider this post to be off topic in any respect. I think it is a message we need to periodically remember to realize what is truly important in our lives. Our hobby is great, but all of us would drop it in a heartbeat for our families. I thank you.

Larry L.

Groiny · August 24, 2011 10:47AM

The attitude of loving-kindness and compassion towards all beings should be everyone's goal.

....amen

OT--A very personal message.

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