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What do you do when your spouse does not have the zeal about your coin collecting as you do? My wonderful wife's opinion about coins is quote: " My idea of coins is you give them to the cashier at the market." And my response is to her, "Yes, and then the cashier saves them and finds out they have a coin worth a few thousand dollars." When I show her the value of some coins she looks at me and says " Oh that's nice for them...But if you spend that much on a coin it will be your last."..........I love her....but she just don't understand the calling...LOL!image

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    krankykranky Posts: 8,709 ✭✭✭
    It's really great if your spouse shares your interest in coins.

    But it's good enough if your spouse isn't interested, but is supportive of your interest!

    New collectors, please educate yourself before spending money on coins; there are people who believe that using numismatic knowledge to rip the naïve is what this hobby is all about.

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    1957joe1957joe Posts: 608 ✭✭
    My wife doesnt understand but she IS supportive. Especially when I come home from a show with $1000 more than I left with. Or when I show her what I found in a roll of coins from the bank!
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    show her a coin that you will sell and make a few quick bucks on and I bet she will change her mind. To her it is about HOW MUCH MONEY you are spending. She is not considering that the coin will be worth what you paid for it and most likely MORE when you sell it.
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    image Oh, YOU TOO!...My wife had the audacity to ask me to sell some of my collection to buy her a NICE Christmas present this year...Yeah...OK!...image
    What is money, in reality, but dirty pieces of paper and metal upon which privilege is stamped?
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    Navajo Wisdom

    A salesman is driving toward home in Northern Arizona when he sees a Navajo man hitchhiking.
    Because the trip had been long and quiet, he stops the car and the Navajo man climbs in.
    During their small talk, the salesman learns that the man is a Navajo medicine man. Also during the drive, the Navajo man glances curiously several times at a brown bag on the front seat between them .

    "If you're wondering what's in the bag," offers the salesman, "it's a bottle of wine.
    I got it for my wife."

    The Navajo man is silent for awhile, nods several times and says, "Good trade."

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    tjkilliantjkillian Posts: 5,578 ✭✭✭
    My wife is just the opposite: she encourages, neah, she BUYS me coins! Many of my best coins came from her or her PARENTS. She is very near sighted and helps me select nice coins too. I've worked with her and most of the time now she buys PCGS coins that are very nice.

    Tom
    Tom

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    bearcavebearcave Posts: 3,996 ✭✭✭✭✭


    << <i>Navajo Wisdom

    A salesman is driving toward home in Northern Arizona when he sees a Navajo man hitchhiking.
    Because the trip had been long and quiet, he stops the car and the Navajo man climbs in.
    During their small talk, the salesman learns that the man is a Navajo medicine man. Also during the drive, the Navajo man glances curiously several times at a brown bag on the front seat between them .

    "If you're wondering what's in the bag," offers the salesman, "it's a bottle of wine.
    I got it for my wife."

    The Navajo man is silent for awhile, nods several times and says, "Good trade." >>




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    Ken
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    My wife is just the opposite: she encourages, neah, she BUYS me coins! Many of my best coins came from her or her PARENTS. She is very near sighted and helps me select nice coins too. I've worked with her and most of the time now she buys PCGS coins that are very nice.

    You're a very fortunate man Tom! I guess this is what that "Love, honour and obey" thing is all about once you get hitched. The priest that married The Mrs. and me forgot one thing when stating OBEY...OBEY him when he wants to buy, for he is ALWAYS correct!... image
    What is money, in reality, but dirty pieces of paper and metal upon which privilege is stamped?
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    MSD61MSD61 Posts: 3,382 ✭
    My wife is very supportive of my collecting coins. I have shown her many times what some of my coins could bring and she thinks it's great.She also knows that there are some coins I can't part with. I did however, put two of my late mother's Morgans up at the bay. They are F to VF and common dates. The real good ones no one gets!....LOL!
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    dougwtxdougwtx Posts: 566 ✭✭
    When my wife bugs me about my latest coin/stamp purchase, I just remind her how much she spent buying her clothes. A house can't be built to contain all the closets a woman needs for clothes. image
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    FrattLawFrattLaw Posts: 3,290 ✭✭


    << <i>When my wife bugs me about my latest coin/stamp purchase, I just remind her how much she spent buying her clothes. A house can't be built to contain all the closets a woman needs for clothes >>



    This is one approach I use as well. However, I found that if I purchase expensive gifts for her, she'll let me purchase what I want in coins. For instance I bought a proof IHC and a proof Liberty Nickel for a type set recently. Combined I believe I spent around $1500. To my wife that's a lot of money. So for our 5th wedding anniversary I bought her a pearl necklace from Tiffany's and another gift from Tiffany's for her recent birthday. She doesn't seem to mind the coins anymore. At least for my wife, she gets jealous if my hobby gets all of my disposable income. You need to remember to spend some on her as well.

    Try to train her, (don't yell at me) if you buy an expensive coin, buy her something. Have her associate your hobby with something enjoyable as well. If it just a small purchase maybe roses will do. Some might say that this is bribery, but those people obviously aren't married. image

    Overall, my wife is now becoming more understanding and even helps me pick out some of my coins. And I usually pass my expensive purchases through her first. You have to give her a reason to enjoy your hobby!

    Michael
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    I'd divorce her and get a dog. They don't care how much you spend on coins.
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    mgoodm3mgoodm3 Posts: 17,497 ✭✭✭
    My wife doesn't understand it much but feels it's better than a mistress.
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    No wife here, but the lady friend gets puzzled by my affinity for coins...but then she's into orchids which bore me, so I guess we're even. However, I did get her interested in putting together a state quarter folderimage
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    keetskeets Posts: 25,351 ✭✭✭✭✭
    What do you do when.....

    .....well, i make sure to always tell her when i cherry something and sell it for a 1000% profit!!! that never fails to get her attention.

    al h.image
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    LucyBopLucyBop Posts: 14,001 ✭✭✭
    If my wife don't like it, she can take a hike! image
    imageBe Bop A Lula!!
    "Senorita HepKitty"
    "I want a real cool Kitty from Hepcat City, to stay in step with me" - Bill Carter
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    MSD61MSD61 Posts: 3,382 ✭
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    topstuftopstuf Posts: 14,803 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Put me in the "profit participation" club.

    We had nuttin and coins made us sumpin.

    No complaints from my wife.

    HOWEVER....... as I used to tell customers who couldn't decide whether to buy bullion or diamonds.

    "Well, if you go home with 10 Krugerrands, you may get a lecture. But if you go home with a 1 carat diamond, you may get a BJ."

    (BJ = Bountiful Jolliness)

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    LanLordLanLord Posts: 11,756 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I count myself very fortunate, for while my wife doesn't understand the whole concept of buying coins, she does not cause me any grief for doing so.

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    SethChandlerSethChandler Posts: 1,722 ✭✭✭✭
    Some of the greatest advice I've ever received in this hobby. "Don't even tell your MOTHER how much you paid for a coin."

    Seth
    Collecting since 1976.
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    << <i>Try to train her, (don't yell at me) if you buy an expensive coin, buy her something. Have her associate your hobby with something enjoyable as well. If it just a small purchase maybe roses will do >>



    I bring back gifts for my girlfriend when I go to major coin shows across the US like the FUN or ANA shows. She likes them and it makes up for the money I spend on coins.

    Cameron Kiefer
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    XpipedreamRXpipedreamR Posts: 8,059 ✭✭
    Luckily, I pretty much get left alone when it comes to the coins. I try to keep it to myself as much as possible, unless I get something really awesome that I have to share.

    Then I usually get the response "oh, that's nice...image"
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    mozeppamozeppa Posts: 4,431 ✭✭✭


    << <i>My wife is just the opposite: she encourages, neah, she BUYS me coins! Many of my best coins came from her or her PARENTS. She is very near sighted and helps me select nice coins too. I've worked with her and most of the time now she buys PCGS coins that are very nice.

    Tom >>




    good woman!.......same here!image
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    Pretty secret.

    Everyone at work found out when I booked the day off for a show.

    Pretty annoying when they say "That's an old person's hobby."

    I'm 20, and I collect. By the way, I only saw about 5 my age.

    Note: Not offending anyone. "Old" people are always willing to help you find coins that you are looking for in the bargain bin, which is awesome.
    I collect Canadian coins! Almost done completing me 1900-2000 Set of Cents! What shall I do next?
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    CaptainRonCaptainRon Posts: 1,189 ✭✭
    I'd divorce her and get a dog. They don't care how much you spend on coins.

    Then all you have to worry about is this.

    I guess if he is going to chew on a slab, then i got lucky he choose an AU anacs slab to play with.




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    << <i>" My idea of coins is you give them to the cashier at the market." >>


    My idea of diamonds (rubies, saphires etc) is you crush them and use them as an abrasive. image
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    I would much rather give my girlfriend or wife a diamond than buy coins.

    Cameron Kiefer
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    XpipedreamRXpipedreamR Posts: 8,059 ✭✭


    << <i>I would much rather give my girlfriend or wife a diamond than buy coins.

    Cameron Kiefer >>




    You're a better man than I!
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    << <i>I would much rather give my girlfriend or wife a diamond than buy coins. >>


    image
    Send Cameron to the "whipped" penalty box image
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    My wife really likes that I collect, and doesn't mind my current spending habits. I know she would worry more about me getting an Ebay addiction (I have let auction fever get the best of me a few times). When several items show up in the mail in just a few days, she would ask to make sure that I wasn't spending too much, but really she would be worried I was addicted.

    Plus - my wife loves the history of the coins that I have. I usually spend some time showing her here and there, just to kep her up-to-date on my collection. image
    SNIKT!
    You are doing well, subject 15837. You are a good person.
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    I want that 20center you have posted! Ha! Ha!
    20centman

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