So... Would Ya?

Broadstruck · September 14, 2016 11:40PM

I bought something that arrived far better then expected and I'm thrilled. During the negotiation the seller and I had been 6% apart on what she really wanted. I offered up everything I had in my PayPal account and she accepted even taking my last 2 cents I mentioned in jest if it would make a difference. Now here and my account flush again I'm considering sending the seller the additional amount she really wanted. So would you out of the goodness of your heart pay more post deal?

panexpoguy · September 14, 2016 11:47PM

You will pay yourself back the first time you look in the mirror.

Broadstruck · September 14, 2016 11:57PM

Originally posted by: panexpoguy

You will pay yourself back the first time you look in the mirror.

Thanks so true!

It's been on my mind since it arrived yesterday and sending the payment is on my list of things to do this morning.

scotty1419 · September 15, 2016 12:00AM

You both agreed on a price and completed the transaction.

If I was thinking strategically toward a seller who I hoped to establish a long relationship with and knew they had other good material, I'd think about a little extra as a thank you.

tradedollarnut · September 15, 2016 12:01AM

Nah. You'll just make them wonder why you're paying more and think they got ripped off

PaleElf · September 15, 2016 12:03AM

From a collector selling a coin to upgrade or because they needed the cash... yes.

From a dealer... no.

Wabbit2313 · September 15, 2016 12:10AM

You took the risk. What if it would have arrived way worse? Would you get money back?

AUandAG · September 15, 2016 12:15AM

Originally posted by: tradedollarnut

Nah. You'll just make them wonder why you're paying more and think they got ripped off

This.

You might be able to help her in another way?

bob

TwoSides2aCoin · September 15, 2016 12:16AM

Budget constraints prevent me from paying more, post deal. I cannot purchase what I cannot afford in the first place, unless there's a profit to be made. But this is from a "dealer's perspective", not a collector. I'm speaking to coins. As a collector, yes , of course I would pay more if I made a "cut to the bone" deal and really liked it upon receipt. Most assuredly.

Broadstruck · September 15, 2016 12:18AM

From a collector and more likely just a one time deal with no follow ups.

I did take a risk as I couldn't fully see what I was buying.

The number one negotiation practice is knowing when to just walk away.

So I wasn't eager to offer any more then I did.

Now here on a bad day it's worth nearly 3 times what I paid wholesale.

At the end of the day we all have to sleep with ourselves.

TwoSides2aCoin · September 15, 2016 12:25AM

I think if you made a good deal, you did great. It's a "You Suck" situation, mate.

ambro51 · September 15, 2016 12:31AM

IF you do this you must : Never attempt to make lower offers again. Repay ALL the other sellers you have lowballed over the years. If you don't want to do those things, forget the thought and move on.

erickso1 · September 15, 2016 12:35AM

To me it would depend on the seller.

Collector or inheritor who is just trying to raise funds (whether for emergency or estate). Yeah, I probably would.

One off dealer who makes a business of buying and selling. Nah.

Dealer who I have long, quality relationship with? I'd probably at least reach out and let them know.

Wabbit2313 · September 15, 2016 12:38AM

How much is the 6% off dollar wise by the way?

fivecents · September 15, 2016 12:43AM

Originally posted by: tradedollarnut
Nah. You'll just make them wonder why you're paying more and think they got ripped off

Exactly

topstuf · September 15, 2016 12:44AM

Return the item and neg the seller.

No?

Hmm

golden · September 15, 2016 1:05AM

Originally posted by: Wabbit2313

You took the risk. What if it would have arrived way worse? Would you get money back?

Broadstruck · September 15, 2016 1:27AM

Originally posted by: Wabbit2313

How much is the 6% off dollar wise by the way?

Roughly about a filet mignon, dessert, couple drinks, & a nice tip

Yorkshireman · September 15, 2016 1:36AM

You offered. She agreed. NO

OKbustchaser · September 15, 2016 1:40AM

Originally posted by: Broadstruck

Originally posted by: Wabbit2313

How much is the 6% off dollar wise by the way?

Roughly about a filet mignon, dessert, couple drinks, & a nice tip

At the Sizzler? or at Ruth Chris's?

cladking · September 15, 2016 1:42AM

Every deal won't work out even. So long as both parties profit I'm not especially concerned who made out better. Anytime I get more than I expect or pay less than full value I'll just raise my bids and pay more for everything from that seller until we're even again. Most people prefer repeat business and relationships more than getting full price out of everything they offer anyway.

Just don't let yourself get too far ahead or behind with someone because you might never be able to even out.

DNADave · September 15, 2016 1:50AM

I would not, but I would be more likely to make another purchase from the dealer if they didn't come off the price of the next deal as much as I'd like.

Walkerfan · September 15, 2016 2:01AM

No, You took the risk and it would only raise suspicions.

If you really feel compelled, then buy something from her again and pay her the full asking price or closer to retail.

This one's a done deal imho.

steveben · September 15, 2016 2:06AM

i think that if you think you should do it, you should do it. you'll feel better.

asheland · September 15, 2016 2:14AM

Originally posted by: Walkerfan
No, You took the risk and it would only raise suspicions.

If you really feel compelled, then buy something from her again and pay her the full asking price or closer to retail.

This one's a done deal imho.

This.

Catbert · September 15, 2016 2:24AM

Go with your gut. Life is short and goodwill toward others is balm for the soul.

mannie gray · September 15, 2016 2:45AM

Originally posted by: tradedollarnut

Nah. You'll just make them wonder why you're paying more and think they got ripped off

This.

DIMEMAN · September 15, 2016 2:52AM

Originally posted by: tradedollarnut
Nah. You'll just make them wonder why you're paying more and think they got ripped off

+1

oih82w8 · September 15, 2016 3:04AM

No, if she wanted more, she would not have accepted what you had to offer...including your last two cents.

Coin Finder · September 15, 2016 3:05AM

I would say pay it forward, give some collector a deal on something you sell in the future....Add to the good Karma of the planet.

mr1931S · September 15, 2016 3:08AM

So would you out of the goodness of your heart pay more post deal?

You were thrilled with your purchase.Why not if you have the ability to pay a bit more,more like the amount the seller was asking for?

It's called spreading goodwill.Not everyone is out to rip others.Send that positive energy message whenever you can.

Life is short and goodwill toward others is balm for the soul.

I agree with this.

TwoSides2aCoin · September 15, 2016 3:13AM

The goodness of the heart is a "love offering". It goes beyond the deal regardless of what another thinks. It's at the heart of man. EOM

Broadstruck · September 15, 2016 3:32AM

I sent the payment along with a nice note showing appreciation well over an hour ago.

I feel good about having done it now, already thought about it yesterday, and doubt I'll feel any different a few years down the road.

I don't surf the web for things to flip just items for me.

I'm not seeing much these days I want or especially to pay up for, however this is something I would have handsomely had I seen it in hand.

When the day comes to sell I'll still do well even with the additional nominal percentage now paid.

Felling warm & fuzzy right now and not the slightest bit foolish.

However you can all weigh my decision any way you want?

Thanks!

oldlinecoins · September 15, 2016 3:33AM

Definitely not. It might make you feel good but it will probably not make them feel good. It will work for the seller's benefit in the future naturally when you choose to do more business with them

coindeuce · September 15, 2016 3:41AM

Originally posted by: Broadstruck

Originally posted by: Wabbit2313

How much is the 6% off dollar wise by the way?

Roughly about a filet mignon, dessert, couple drinks, & a nice tip

I see that the resident expert is looking to pass judgement on you too.

Broadstruck · September 15, 2016 3:45AM

Originally posted by: coindeuce

Originally posted by: Broadstruck

Originally posted by: Wabbit2313

How much is the 6% off dollar wise by the way?

Roughly about a filet mignon, dessert, couple drinks, & a nice tip

I see that the resident expert is looking to pass judgement on you too.

Well prior to doing so I should mention that I gave her exactly what she wanted and not a penny more.

As I rounded my payment off since she previously took my last 2 cents

nags · September 15, 2016 5:23AM

Is it graded? Is she knowledgeable on the subject? If it was a somewhat level playing field and a graded coin than no. If it was ungraded and she grossly under graded the coin than sure.

LindeDad · September 15, 2016 6:33AM

Originally posted by: Broadstruck

I bought something that arrived far better then expected and I'm thrilled. During the negotiation the seller and I had been 6% apart on what she really wanted. I offered up everything I had in my PayPal account and she accepted even taking my last 2 cents I mentioned in jest if it would make a difference. Now here and my account flush again I'm considering sending the seller the additional amount she really wanted. So would you out of the goodness of your heart pay more post deal?

Is this the joke of the day club?

oih82w8 · September 15, 2016 6:35AM

Let's see what all the hub-bub is about!

bolivarshagnasty · September 15, 2016 7:06AM

Roughly about a filet mignon, dessert, couple drinks, & a nice tip

At the Sizzler? or at Ruth Chris's?

dib · September 15, 2016 7:14AM

The real question is, how would you respond to the seller if she then asked you how much the coin was really worth?

BryceM · September 15, 2016 7:50AM

I agree with TDN on this one. Your thread indicates that your heart is in the right place, but if you feel you simply must do something, send her an ounce of silver or a Morgan slick. Just paying more will make her suspicious.

No good deed goes unpunished.

jedm · September 15, 2016 7:50AM

I agree that you did good. If we don't do what makes us feel good (as long as it's not at the expense of another) we will be dependent on others for that. I also liked the recommendation to "pay it forward" mentioned by thebigeng and the karma idea. But you have already made your decision and should be pleased with it.

coinkat · September 15, 2016 8:04AM

Without knowing the coin, the condition or anything associated with the transaction, it seems tough to play Monday morning QB or be the moral compass in connection with EBay transactions. One approach would be to just look for other items offered by the Same seller and find something to purchase.

One thing that I have done in buying coins is to select coins that I Like that are priced fairly and buy them. While some will say this makes me a chump, I think it demonstrates a sense of fairness that leads to the ability to strike a deal on those coins where the difference is the 6 percent described in this thread

ricko · September 15, 2016 9:18PM

Follow your conscience... you know best the situation ... Cheers, RickO

RB1026 · September 15, 2016 10:40PM

After reading the responses in this thread, I have a better understanding now why I've never been financially successful in numismatics

I guess I'm just an idiot collector who believes in the tenet "do unto others as you would have done to you". You can't put a price on that.

Broadstruck, I commend you for a kind gesture that I believe will pay you back tenfold. The very fact that you thought to do such a kind thing in the first place speaks volumes about your character. I've done similar things in the past and ALWAYS have felt that I came out way ahead in the deal in ways that $$ can't buy. Good for you!

panexpoguy · September 15, 2016 11:08PM

I imagine that you feel better today than you would have had you taken that amount of money and bought yourself a steak dinner last night. Bryce is right, no good deed goes unpunished. But if you are not willing to pay a price for who you want to be, then you will pay another price for being who you are.

Catbert · September 15, 2016 11:18PM

Originally posted by: panexpoguy

But if you are not willing to pay a price for who you want to be, then you will pay another price for being who you are.

Profound comment!

Broadstruck · September 16, 2016 11:33AM

Thanks as I got a really nice email from the seller early this morning after I first confused then shocked her with a unexpected surprise

mr1931S · September 16, 2016 10:11PM

The real question is, how would you respond to the seller if she then asked you how much the coin was really worth?

"To me,the coin is worth every penny that you were asking for.i'm delighted with my purchase.Thank you for working with me to help build my collection."

So... Would Ya?

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