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I travel a lot for work and when I get some free time I like to visit these sort of places and I am use to being told that they dont have anything that I am looking for. In most cases I then pick up a ASE or AGE to add to my collection if I dont see anything else that grabs my attention. This week I found myself in a small town in the middle of Idaho where I noticed there was a B&M shop. I looked around and as usual I didn't see anything that interested me, so I asked the shop keeper if he had any MS Quarter Eagles and he didn't. I then I ask him if he has an Iowa commemorative (I've been wanting one for a while just have not found one I like enough to buy yet) and he thinks he does so he gets into his safe and pulls out a box of 20 and thumbs through it. Not finding one he lets me know, and I ask if I can see what hes got in the box and I am told no. Not a big deal I suppose but as I have thought about it, it really bothers me. I was in the mood to buy a nice coin to add to my collection. Yes there are a couple of series that I mainly stick to, but I dont pretend like there are not other coins that interest me.
Coins are something that have interested me since I was a small boy and I really enjoy this hobby most of the time. However I find being a customer within this hobby to be very inhospitible. Maybe I am spoiled by the other hobbies I've got where I am treated like a human being. Yes, I've been told that things are not for sale in other hobbies. But rarely has that prevented the shop keep from letting me look at it or explain to me why I am not allowed to look.
I'm sure this incident wont stop me from walking into a nice shop, but it sure would be nice to walk into one where I can enjoy the visit.
Coins are something that have interested me since I was a small boy and I really enjoy this hobby most of the time. However I find being a customer within this hobby to be very inhospitible. Maybe I am spoiled by the other hobbies I've got where I am treated like a human being. Yes, I've been told that things are not for sale in other hobbies. But rarely has that prevented the shop keep from letting me look at it or explain to me why I am not allowed to look.
I'm sure this incident wont stop me from walking into a nice shop, but it sure would be nice to walk into one where I can enjoy the visit.
Donavan
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ride my sportster to a lot of these places years ago and park right in front
of the door, and most treated me great, some like a king and some of them
would'nt even buzz the door mouthing that there closed, oh well there loss.
Don't lose any sleep over it.
Steve
maybe he was partial to them.
But if you want something specific, he will look for it and let you know. It also depends on if he knows you and can trust you. Regulars get better treatment.
<< <i>Yes, B&Ms are excluded from dealing with ethics. Don't take it personal. Only the customers are required to be ethical. After all, it is the B&M's space. They can be and act however they want. Customers must be holy and sacred. I don't get this understanding. Why are we so quick to attack ethics of a customer, but so quick to defend the lack of ethics of the B&M? >>
Brilliant post.
<< <i>Yes, B&Ms are excluded from dealing with ethics. Don't take it personal. Only the customers are required to be ethical. After all, it is the B&M's space. They can be and act however they want. Customers must be holy and sacred. I don't get this understanding. Why are we so quick to attack ethics of a customer, but so quick to defend the lack of ethics of the B&M? >>
Because most of the people here have little idea of the challenges faced by B&M owners and the risks they must deal with.
devious: ethics was never part of the equation. Saying "no" to letting a stranger look at your box of coins is a safety precaution. Just like many dealers at shows aren't comfortable with letting more than 1 coin out of there case at a time, the same can be said for coins at a shop. For all the dealer knew, the OP could have planned to bolt as soon as he got the box in hand.
I could have acted angry and walked away at that point but I politely said no and asked to look at another coin which I ended up getting a pretty fair deal on.
I think in order to increase your chances of success in this hobby you have to be willing to roll with the punches and poor manners of others.
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<< <i>Yes, B&Ms are excluded from dealing with ethics. Don't take it personal. Only the customers are required to be ethical. After all, it is the B&M's space. They can be and act however they want. Customers must be holy and sacred. I don't get this understanding. Why are we so quick to attack ethics of a customer, but so quick to defend the lack of ethics of the B&M? >>
Because most of the people here have little idea of the challenges faced by B&M owners and the risks they must deal with.
devious: ethics was never part of the equation. Saying "no" to letting a stranger look at your box of coins is a safety precaution. Just like many dealers at shows aren't comfortable with letting more than 1 coin out of there case at a time, the same can be said for coins at a shop. For all the dealer knew, the OP could have planned to bolt as soon as he got the box in hand. >>
I suppose the world is guilty until proven innocent. Sad world people live in, I guess.
Why are banks around? Shouldn't it just be assumed that because they're opening up a bank, they're going to be robbed? Therefore, don't open a bank and avoid any possibility of being robbed? If you open a place to conduct BUSINESS, wouldn't it be best to actually allow BUSINESS/COMMERCE to take place? He obviously grabbed the coins from the safe because THEY WERE FOR SALE. Why not allow a potential buyer to look at the inventory? Sounds pretty moronic, from a business aspect, if you ask me.
Point is, customers seem to get all the heat on these forums when it comes to a B&M interaction. Even in the hypothetical posts. The B&Ms are mostly let off the hook for any and all of their behaviors. I understand the one coin out at a time, but seriously, as a B&M owner, maybe you should have the doors all lock from the inside. Then he couldn't have bolted and you could have maybe made a sale to somebody you suspected would steal from you instead. They have this locking mechanism in gun shops I go to. And it makes more sense in the gun shops.
Paranoia is rampant in this world. Support the pharma world and buy more happy pills, people.
I live in a world of trust. You're not my enemy until you make yourself my enemy. I wish other people would feel the same. It's hard for me to understand the mistrust placed on strangers, ESPECIALLY in a for profit business/commerce environment.
Yet, I'm the one who is 'devious'.
roadrunner
<< <i>I think in order to increase your chances of success in this hobby you have to be willing to roll with the punches and poor manners of others. >>
While I think this is true and helps, from an attitude standpoint; I do think that tact, patience, saying please & thank you, etc. are lacking from BOTH sides of the table.
<< <i>It was in Lewiston Idaho and I was the only patron in the shop. I was dressed business casual. And the only reason that it bothers me is that I can go into a Jewelry shop and look at some very expensive jewelry and not have anyone blink an eye. I'm not going to loose any sleep over this, its more of a curiosity about the hobby. >>
Leroy Huminsky? He has been in the same location for 35 years! He pays top dollar! AND he is open on Saturdays!
<< <i>Even in some of my favorite B&M shops they are very leery of allowing me to look through some of their boxes. I think part of not seeing fresh/good material is that they would rather place it with a well-known customer/client who will one day sell the items back to them. There's not a lot to be gained selling to strangers, one timers, even dealers and pseudo-dealers, as those coins will probably never come back. When they have items that local clients won't buy then those are rountinely the things I'll get shown. Once you set yourself up to be a reliable and steady customer, you'll be shown more material. One of the shops I often visited from around 1974 to 1999 didn't hardly show me a coin in 25 yrs. No matter what I did it was impossible to break into their favored-sons group. It wasn't until the shop changed hands that I finally started seeing coins and being able to buy them. 25 yrs was a long time to wait, especially knowing some fabulous coins routinely went through that shop. Many of the best coins were sold directly to west coast dealers who routinely flew in on buying trips to fleece these guys, all the while convincing them what a great deal they were getting. I guess they prefered to be fleeced by sharp national dealers rather than to sell to in-state collectors. The raw coin days made it quite simple to buy nice coins for dirt.
roadrunner >>
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<< <i>It was in Lewiston Idaho and I was the only patron in the shop. I was dressed business casual. And the only reason that it bothers me is that I can go into a Jewelry shop and look at some very expensive jewelry and not have anyone blink an eye. I'm not going to loose any sleep over this, its more of a curiosity about the hobby. >>
You didn't look Mormon enough.
I think we all have had the same experiences with B&M dealers mostly. I too have experienced all the above described.
I understand now that B&M shops are there mostly to buy and rip from the unknowledgeable public.
They have an arrogant attitude and try and intimidate the walkins to sell to them very cheaply.
I have had this same attitude experience at shows also, but seems to be only a few now and then.
I even had one of our past ANA govenors give me this attitude intimidation BS/ berating at his table. he still won't ever get my vote for his seat again at this years election.
I had one local B&M dealer get all upset that I wanted to buy a Fine barber dime 1906-S he had in a pick one lot. He knew I was an advanced collector and he thought I had cherry picked him for some rare variety he had missed. I just liked the coin, he did not believe me.
Many are paranoid of this.
krueger
Reach into back pocket, remove wallet.
Open wallet, fan through about twenty $100 Bills.
Turn, walk out of shop.
<< <i>Even in the hypothetical posts. The B&Ms are mostly let off the hook for any and all of their behaviors. >>
You're kidding. right? That is not even remotely close to the truth. B&M owners are raked over the coals regularly here.
Sometimes, there's even a good reason.
Unfortunately the solution to this is that collectors need to come in with a POSITIVE open mind and let things happen. Yes there are jerks behind the counter but it is like that in every business. At least give it a chance. Who knows, if you do that maybe you can get on the preferred list. Or just deal with MDP because he is nice to everyone.
On another note, if you think the B+Ms are bad here, trying going into one in Europe. On my vacation to Italy and Spain I went into several shops and all they had was cleaned, overpriced crap. In a few of the stores the coins were of questionable authenticity and a few others had the owner sleeping at their desk. Be somewhat thankful for what you have here.
<< <i>Because some feel like the shop is going to try and take advantage of them, they come in with this, I am better than you attitude, it turns the dealer off really fast. >>
I'm sure I posted this before, but one day at the local coin shop, the dealer told me a guy came in with some stuff to sell and said "I know you're going to rip me off, but what will you pay for these?"
I do think you tend to hear more bad dealer stories, because, well, they are simply outnumbered by the collectors.
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Reach into back pocket, remove wallet.
Open wallet, fan through about twenty $100 Bills.
Turn, walk out of shop. >>
I did this about 6-7 years ago. The first time there(new to the hobby then) around 2000 the guy told me after picking some low grade crap that if I didn't intend on spending at least $100 that I was wasting his time. I went in a few years later with several c-notes hoping to get a nice coin. I asked him if he had a 1909-S VDB and he and his buddy hanging out with him started laughing and he stated "you buying a 1909-S VDB? You don't have the money for that." I said I did, showed the wad of $100s I had and left. I was mad but returned about 2-3 years ago to buy a Liberty double eagle and spent about $1300. Since that purchase he treats me much differently.
I do think it's odd that some coin dealers are short on people skills. I do not think coin collectors are this way in general but I do think this hobby attracts these types of people. I can't understand why dealers won't allow people to see their coins up close. When I was engagement ring shopping several years ago multiple jewelers let me hold several thousand dollar rings with no problems. If anything, they were very cordial and acted like they really wanted to make a sale.
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<< <i>It was in Lewiston Idaho and I was the only patron in the shop. I was dressed business casual. And the only reason that it bothers me is that I can go into a Jewelry shop and look at some very expensive jewelry and not have anyone blink an eye. I'm not going to loose any sleep over this, its more of a curiosity about the hobby. >>
You didn't look Mormon enough. >>
Coirn, I may have to disagree. Lewiston is to far north, and to close to Washington for Mormon country. That was more around Boise, Id and thereabouts. You ran into a whole new breed of cats in Northern Idaho, Northern, Washington.
Nick
<< <i>It was in Lewiston Idaho and I was the only patron in the shop. I was dressed business casual. And the only reason that it bothers me is that I can go into a Jewelry shop and look at some very expensive jewelry and not have anyone blink an eye. I'm not going to loose any sleep over this, its more of a curiosity about the hobby. >>
I agree with your statement. That is the why I do not go inside coin shops anymore. I am tired to be look at like they do me a favor ( I am the paying customer!!!)
Few dealers I trust that is all and the bay,
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<< <i><----scratching Idaho off my list of "Coin Friendly" states. >>
On the basis of *one* report? Kind of an overreaction, I'd say. You could try reading this thread for some other opinions if you're interested.
<< <i>I think we all have had the same experiences with B&M dealers mostly. I too have experienced all the above described.
I understand now that B&M shops are there mostly to buy and rip from the unknowledgeable public.
They have an arrogant attitude and try and intimidate the walkins to sell to them very cheaply.
I have had this same attitude experience at shows also, but seems to be only a few now and then.
I even had one of our past ANA govenors give me this attitude intimidation BS/ berating at his table. he still won't ever get my vote for his seat again at this years election.
I had one local B&M dealer get all upset that I wanted to buy a Fine barber dime 1906-S he had in a pick one lot. He knew I was an advanced collector and he thought I had cherry picked him for some rare variety he had missed. I just liked the coin, he did not believe me.
Many are paranoid of this.
krueger >>
I'm guessing you're understanding of B&M shops comes primarily from people posting here. Wait for your own empirical knowledge to come as opposed to developing such generalizations based on what is posted here, because so much of what is posted here is wrong.
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<< <i><----scratching Idaho off my list of "Coin Friendly" states. >>
On the basis of *one* report? Kind of an overreaction, I'd say. You could try reading this thread for some other opinions if you're interested. >>
You're correct. That was probably a little over the edge on my part.
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I have to apologize. I didn't mean to jump on you with both feet over this. It's just that "Mr. Nasty B&M Owner" seems to be a regular topic on this forum, and I think the reality is (in general) something quite different. On the other hand, based on the attitudes of some of the posters as expressed in their own words, I can guess why they might think as they do and why the dealers they encounter act as *they* do.
As for me, none of my B&M experiences have ever been anywhere near as bad as what I see posted here, but then again, maybe I'm doing it wrong?
Greg Hansen, Melbourne, FL Click here for any current EBAY auctions Multiple "Circle of Trust" transactions over 14 years on forum
<< <i>You guys that think coin dealers are too gruff obviously don't spend enough time in gun shops. >>
Spot on!
See http://www.doubledimes.com for a free online reference for US twenty-cent pieces
If people (not just dealers) have these types of interactions enough, it may become difficult to not be cynical. Some dealers take the easy way out and try and bully the public and other dealers. It's a low-level survival response from an emotionally unskilled person. You can't control somebody's action, only your response to it. Never forget that about 1/5 of the population has a mental disorder of some kind ... seriously.
See http://www.doubledimes.com for a free online reference for US twenty-cent pieces
<< <i>As somebody else who has been on both sides of the counter, I can tell you that often a B&M dealer has to contend with misinformed customers who know that their "victory nickel" (i.e., Liberty nickel) is worth thousands and thousands and any realistic discussion is framed around the dealer being a thief because they know what dealers are really like. The same thing happens with lots of common coins that are rare to the public but widgets to dealers.
If people (not just dealers) have these types of interactions enough, it may become difficult to not be cynical. Some dealers take the easy way out and try and bully the public and other dealers. It's a low-level survival response from an emotionally unskilled person. You can't control somebody's action, only your response to it. Never forget that about 1/5 of the population has a mental disorder of some kind ... seriously. >>
You mean like the people who look up an Uncirculated 1914-D cent on "THE INTERNET!!!" and then insist that their 1913 plain in VG must be worth more because "it's older!!!!?"
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<< <i>As somebody else who has been on both sides of the counter, I can tell you that often a B&M dealer has to contend with misinformed customers who know that their "victory nickel" (i.e., Liberty nickel) is worth thousands and thousands and any realistic discussion is framed around the dealer being a thief because they know what dealers are really like. The same thing happens with lots of common coins that are rare to the public but widgets to dealers.
If people (not just dealers) have these types of interactions enough, it may become difficult to not be cynical. Some dealers take the easy way out and try and bully the public and other dealers. It's a low-level survival response from an emotionally unskilled person. You can't control somebody's action, only your response to it. Never forget that about 1/5 of the population has a mental disorder of some kind ... seriously. >>
You mean like the people who look up an Uncirculated 1914-D cent on "THE INTERNET!!!" and then insist that their 1913 plain in VG must be worth more because "it's older!!!!?" >>
No, that's their sister.
See http://www.doubledimes.com for a free online reference for US twenty-cent pieces
<< <i>You guys that think coin dealers are too gruff obviously don't spend enough time in gun shops. >>
Amen.
Born out by dozens of experiences, I atribute my willingness to weather the introverted, suspicious, gruff or even"inside circle" tendencies of dealers that has lead to many a true treasure.
True of fishing too. Go where others havent' been willing, or didn't have the fortitude and opportunity abounds.
BTW, Religious appearance, skin color, or orientation isn't usually an issue in this modern, enlightened age, except maybe for a few people here who obviously are still bothered by such things.
So I'd pull out my yellow pages and start calling around to stores that I had done business with in the past to ask them if they had the set in question in stock, and if so, was it heavily toned, and the price.
I can't tell you how many of them would refuse to check or answer...even about the price. They'd say, "If you're interested, come in." And then hung up. So yes, that always struck me as odd.
I'd like to say that things have improved in recent years, and at most shows everyone is usually pleasant enough. But every now and then, you still run into a crab (Baltimore crab?) at an empty or nearly empty table who actually looks annoyed that you're disturbing his lunch.
Oh well...such is life.
I must have been lucky because not one dealer was ever rude to me while I did that.
- have told me that the owner is too busy to provide personal service.
- have told me that I cannot look through proof sets to pick a nice one, as they do not allow cherrypicking. Furthermore that the owner has already cherried off the good sets, which the owner hoardes in the back, which I cannot see.
- on several occasions were unable to answer a real question, went into the back to ask the owner, who was too busy to tell me himself, but rather gave the clerk a quick non-explanation which was relayed to me. I followed up, upon which the clerk explained that although she did not have an answer, she was unable to ask the boss another question unless this was leading to a real sale, as he was just too busy to bother with random stuff.
- accosted me once when I entered his shop after I commented right here on the forum that his new big-money silver CC widget had that "dipped look" according to auction photos. I mean, I'm no expert, but how does a silver coin go over a hundred years looking like freshly polished silverware? Anyway, the clerk saw me and ran to get the owner's wife. She showed me a printout of the post, told me that she thought it was unfair, and then further asked me why in so many years I have not given their shop a fair shake, and not allowed them to help me build my collection. I told her that in my opinion, this was just a shop to find occasional widgets, and no place in my opinion to find real quality coins in the series I collect. I also told her that I have never been treated like a customer that mattered in the least, and that in leiu of the owner's presence at the counter, was no place to carry on any real discussion about coins. Well "BURN!" I guess. For that, I was asked impolitely by the owner's wife to leave and withhold my further business.
Sweet! Now every time I pass by their shop I get a chill down my spine.
By the way, as you may have guessed, this shop is local to me, in Reno. I just want to clear up that I am NOT talking about Silver State Coin, Northern Nevada Coin, or any of the shops local to Carson City. Just a shop in a run-down strip, fully barred windows, run by a black-eyed troll of a man that perhaps has forgotten what the sun looks like.
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