Ever call your wife (or husband) from a coin show to get an ok on a large purchase?
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Sorry, I am short on nifty coin ideas this evening.
She is the last person I would call. I hide the coin when I get home.
Gawd no.
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What could possibly go wrong??
If you need permission from your wife; then You have bigger problems than making a coin purchase. JMHO
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I still haven't told her about the half eagle I bought in Rosemont in 2022.
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Your kidding - she knows I am active in it but officially I just stay on plan as far as inventory level. She does like to hear I did well on a high margin sale. One show I told her how made quite a lot on currency and she was really delighted - took her out to dinner, drinks to celebrate. Wives like the good news but the bad shows (neg p&l) one might want keep to self.
Maybe PerryHall will check in before the evening is over...
Or your girlfriend if your wife doesn't answer.
Who am I kidding? If you have a wife AND a girlfriend, you can't afford a large purchase at a coin show!
None of her business.
I’ve called MrsSpud before when I unexpectedly found one of the last coins I needed for my Circulated 19th Century Type Set to discuss whether or not I should purchase it. I didn’t expect to find it and had not planned on spending so much. I was hesitating, but when I described it to her she said I better get it so I did.
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Feel free to accept or reject advice from one of the never-been-married, but I would assume that, if money is tight enough that coin purchases are causing relationship friction, then you're better off negotiating your price cap in advance, and not even think about exceeding it while you're at the show.
if you then find yourself physically incapable of walking away from a deal without exceeding your price cap, and you feel your only options are to make the call or to make the purchase anyway and try to keep it on the down-low, then (a) you need professional help, and (b) make the call, and then agree to attend whatever therapy sessions he/she insists you attend.
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Therapy session is likely to be at the Louis Vuitton counter at Bergdorf where equally pricey handbags are offered.
Eight years ago at the Honolulu show, I narrowed my search down to two 1907-S $20 from RARCOA. I had my wife pick, she picked well. I still have the coin.
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I tell her it's an investment in our future and she buys it every time.
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The old lady got her walking papers so NO (whatever her name was now...)
My wife and I keep our finances separated. I don't know what's in her account and she doesn't know what's in mine. We're four months away from our 29th Anniversary.
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I've tried, but I haven't been able to locate a pay phone.
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If I had to get "permission" from The Rodentwoman every time I wanted to buy something I would have nothing. We'd be living in a log cabin with a dirt floor and a hearth driving a car like The Flintstones.
The following laminated sign has been on our fridge so long I think we may have even changed fridges.
IF IT IS ABOUT COINS I DON'T WANT TO HEAR IT. THERE ARE NO EXCEPTIONS TO THIS RULE
Telling wife not a problem around here. James
If she catches you, just tell her that you are going to sell it on the BST for an obscene profit.
Worry is the interest you pay on a debt you may not owe.
"Paper money eventually returns to its intrinsic value---zero."----Voltaire
"Everything you say should be true, but not everything true should be said."----Voltaire
I haven’t & won’t. But, she is aware of what I buy (& sell) as she’s interested & a bit of a collector herself.
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That used to work for me until I started buying coins.
I have a couple of times. When I was purchasing the 1907 $20 High Relief and needed to borrow money for it and when I purchased the 1793 Chain Cent (had the money, but wanted to make her aware as it was one of my biggest purchases to date). Both times she told me she would do whatever she could to help me out and make it happen.
I guess I'm lucky to be in the kind of relationship I'm in with my wife.
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Many years ago. It was a condition census example of the rarest 1803 half cent variety. I didn't have enough money in my checking account, and I asked her if she could move some money.
Best response. And sometimes that few minutes on the phone can make one think a bit more about the logic of the large purchase.
No. I have my slush fund to use on my coin purchases. My wife is normally not interested in my coins until it comes time to sell. Then she usually shakes her head at some of the prices they realize.
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What she doesn't know won't hurt me.
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No, but she has joined me a few times. She collects other things and we support one another’s interests. A couple of dinosaurs.
It's easier to get forgiveness than permission.
Worry is the interest you pay on a debt you may not owe.
"Paper money eventually returns to its intrinsic value---zero."----Voltaire
"Everything you say should be true, but not everything true should be said."----Voltaire
Our finances are joint so if I'm going to spend the family money, I would always let her know. But if its from my hobby budget and I saved up for it, the answer is no.
For example this was saved up and planned, she was not informed.
This one was a good price at the Baltimore show but I had already spent my hobby funds, since I would have to touch the family money, I spoke to her before I purchased it.
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I accurately describe my coin purchases as assets and not liabilities (or expenses never to be recouped). I think my wife still struggles with this concept, but we are not spending "house money" since my funding comes from a part-time consulting practice that isn't used for income.
"Got a flaming heart, can't get my fill"
No, I wouldn't call my spouse to ask about an impulse coin buy. The time it would take to contact a ward of a southern state would certainly curb my impulse to buy.
"you have a collect call from the Mississippi department of corrections from BEEP 'DONT BUY IT' BEEP Will you accept the charges?"
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Sure! I call her to potentially transfer money between accounts. My wife knows everything I do. She never says "no" because I am always sure that we can afford the coin before I make requests. I would not entertain buying a coin that would put my household in a bind.
I am a newer collector (started April 2020), and I primarily focus on U.S. Half Cents and Type Coins. Early copper is my favorite.
She didn't call me for permission to buy a $1000.00 pocketbook and shoes.
I discuss potential large purchases with my wife. I think it’s important to discuss a large expenditure (of any sort) with your spouse, not necessarily ask for permission or forgiveness. Especially if the expense requires digging into savings or borrowing.
We discuss all unbudgeted purchases over about $30. Everything is joint and we keep each other informed.
The vast majority of coin show purchases are budgeted (I take cash saved for that specific purchase). On a few occasions I have called to let her know that I was digging into other money because of a specific coin. Never gotten any pushback and always felt good about her knowing.
Whether I tell her or not I’m really just pulling coin money forward and will have less to spend later.
Never. She has her money and I have mine.
Seems like a lot of chest thumping here. Wife and I are partners in this game of life. I have a budget and if I intend to exceed the budget then we talk about it. Trust is paramount. (and she has never said "no", which makes things easier
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Call her? lol Not even close, I make up stories twice a week when FedEx delivers my 2 day packages from GC and Heritage. And I ALWAYS get the mail to pull out all the ground advantage packs.
I never ask for permission, but sometimes I let her know. She sometimes likes to see them out of curiosity when I buy them.
She's always been supportive. When I sold two coins last year to free up $100K to finish our house build that pretty much put to bed any resistance to buying (not that there was any, just awe on the funds spent sometimes). As long as it does not impact our basic needs.
She's not super interested, but will attend a show for half a day and try to help locate coins that meet my formula.
No complaints here.
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No, never. I buy, hide the coin and then do a lot of explaining if she finds out. In extreme cases, I swear off coins and confess that I am an addict and will seek help.
That’s what I tell mine. “Mind your business”.
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I did this one time - chose not to do this again for the new wife.
No, but I called her about a Corvette and her response was: "What do you think?" I thought it was a good idea, so I bought it. Guess what? She was upset I bought it! LOL! Next time, I bought a Corvette in Miami, told her we were going on vacation to Florida and driving a Corvette home. That went over better!
Dealer—“I don’t have a phone. Bring her along next time and maybe we can dicker”
God no. We are both sane people, we trust each other, and are looking out for the best interest of the family.