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npquaker27
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ive been a huge lurker on this board, but i finally decided to get another account (i forgot my old pass & email lol)
anyways
recently my grandfather visited. me, hardly ever seeing him, showed him my coin collection in hopes of impressing him. we discussed coins and how theyre graded and valued and whatnot and the talk turns to his colection. as it turns out, when my grandmother was pregnant with my father, she collected coins. so he tells me how she would just sit and look at coins all day. so out of the blue he asks me if a 1916-d dime is of any value. the dime of all time!! so of course i tell him its a very valuable coin. i showed him pcgs prices, ebay and the rest and he was getting excited.
apparantly my grandmother bought him one back in the sixties as a birthday present.
but
hes recently invited me to see the rest of his collection that hes told me about. gold, silver, double eagles you name it.
ive only heard about the rest.
so what im worried about is....
my grandfather, not knowing about coins too well, has built up some debt
i dont want him to sell the 16-d merc or any of his collection because he has some other great coins just sitting in a closet somewhere most definitly raw and never seen sunlight for a decent 20 years. plus he lives in a small town where nobody locks their doors.
he said he wouldnt sell it but im not sure =/
a great family collection would be amazing to have, but its not exactly mine yet i dont want to see it go. im extremly nervous and afraid to ask him for it, its his coin collection and its his decision but how many times will you have the chance for something like this?? i would hate to see it go but i would feel guilty if he just gave it to me.
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recently my grandfather visited. me, hardly ever seeing him, showed him my coin collection in hopes of impressing him. we discussed coins and how theyre graded and valued and whatnot and the talk turns to his colection. as it turns out, when my grandmother was pregnant with my father, she collected coins. so he tells me how she would just sit and look at coins all day. so out of the blue he asks me if a 1916-d dime is of any value. the dime of all time!! so of course i tell him its a very valuable coin. i showed him pcgs prices, ebay and the rest and he was getting excited.
apparantly my grandmother bought him one back in the sixties as a birthday present.
but
hes recently invited me to see the rest of his collection that hes told me about. gold, silver, double eagles you name it.
ive only heard about the rest.
so what im worried about is....
my grandfather, not knowing about coins too well, has built up some debt
i dont want him to sell the 16-d merc or any of his collection because he has some other great coins just sitting in a closet somewhere most definitly raw and never seen sunlight for a decent 20 years. plus he lives in a small town where nobody locks their doors.
he said he wouldnt sell it but im not sure =/
a great family collection would be amazing to have, but its not exactly mine yet i dont want to see it go. im extremly nervous and afraid to ask him for it, its his coin collection and its his decision but how many times will you have the chance for something like this?? i would hate to see it go but i would feel guilty if he just gave it to me.
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The only reason you'd have to feel guily is if you snuck into his house and stole the stuff.
Ray
but i dont know. if he passes it will probably go to my grandmother and i have no clue what she would do with them.
<< <i>i would feel guilty if he just gave it to me.
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The only reason you'd have to feel guily is if you snuck into his house and stole the stuff.
Ray >>
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thats exactly how i don't want to come off as o_0
i would definitly be sad to see it go but like i said its his coins, his decision. i cant change that
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<< <i>its his coins, his decision. i cant change that >>
Bingo.
1. Grandfather
2. Grandmother
3. Your parents, uncles and aunts and their spouses.
4. You and cousins
Let your interest in coins in general be well known to your grandfather but do not push and pry.
<< <i>It's his collection and it's his decision whether or not he decides to sell them. You should educate him and make sure if he decide to sell that he gets what the coins are worth. Don't take this the wrong way, but you come off as if you are more concerned about what happens to the coins than your grandfather being financially taken care of... you haven't even seen the collection and yet you're licking your lips at the thought. I would never even consider accepting valuables from a relative that certainly appears to need money, not holier than thou, just a family man though and through. >>
+1!
<< <i>I agree with KlectorKid >>
I thought this was Curly speaking, he has the same icon and down to earth wisdom. KlectorKid is right on. Help your grandfather evaluate his collection and if there are specific coins of interest to you, offer him fair market value for them. Certainly if he needs money, liquidation of the collection seems the way to go. BTW - welcome again to the forum.
i dont really apreciate that comment there pressuan
really, you guys are absolutly right i was just voicing my concerns. if he needs the money, fine its his. i never stated anything should be mine, im sorry if i didnt make this clear. i understand its his. i'll help him out any way i can and ill have no problem with it.
its really dejecting im all of the sudden some money grubbing little brat. its my grandfather for petes sake!
really thats why im nervous bacause i dont want to come off as that
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It's ok to ask him what his plans are, if that's to sell then so be it. At that point you could offer to help sell it right, including getting the better stuff graded and finding the right buyers.
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i dont really apreciate that comment there pressuan
really, you guys are absolutly right i was just voicing my concerns. if he needs the money, fine its his. i never stated anything should be mine, im sorry if i didnt make this clear. i understand its his. i'll help him out any way i can and ill have no problem with it.
its really dejecting im all of the sudden some money grubbing little brat. its my grandfather for petes sake!
really thats why im nervous bacause i dont want to come off as that >>
You've done the right thing coming to the forum for advice. I bet we all have dreamed about a grandfather with an extensive collection "that might be passed down to me". These are natural feelings so don't be embarassed by them. Do what is right and the world will be yours.
"a great family collection would be amazing to have, but its not exactly mine yet i dont want to see it go. im extremly nervous and afraid to ask him for it, its his coin collection and its his decision but how many times will you have the chance for something like this??"
The lack of punctuation around the word "yet" allows this to be read in more than one way and this may lead to a less than flattering impression on your part.
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absolutly my bad.
if i wasnt clear, ll try to be in the future.
just forget about the post anyways, more people seem to be into flaming than helping.
so im sorry if i offended anybody, i know who not to ask next time.
You are coming across as treating your grandfather as a lottery ticket. You admit to not seeing or talking to the man very often yet you feel entitled to his collection.
<< <i>It's his collection and it's his decision whether or not he decides to sell them. You should educate him and make sure if he decide to sell that he gets what the coins are worth. Don't take this the wrong way, but you come off as if you are more concerned about what happens to the coins than your grandfather being financially taken care of... you haven't even seen the collection and yet you're licking your lips at the thought. I would never even consider accepting valuables from a relative that certainly appears to need money, not holier than thou, just a family man though and through. >>
<< <i>Not a single person flamed you.
You are coming across as treating your grandfather as a lottery ticket. You admit to not seeing or talking to the man very often yet you feel entitled to his collection. >>
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<< <i>Not a single person flamed you.
You are coming across as treating your grandfather as a lottery ticket. You admit to not seeing or talking to the man very often yet you feel entitled to his collection. >>
I don't view npquaker as being greedy or being "entitled" to the collection. What I see is someone who wants his family heritage to be preserved, and npquaker hopes to be the eventual "keeper of the coins." In other words, I don't see npquaker as one who would take the coins, sell them, and buy himself a new car.
I'm not sure exactly what the family financial situation, and I'm not going to get into that. I like collecting coins, but I also know that the coins can be a fairly valuable resource of money should I ever need to sell. I dunno whether grandfather needs to sell the coins for money, but if he does, he should make informed decisions. Or maybe grandfather is just happy at hearing of the potential value of the coins, so his heirs will be well taken care of too.
at least some people can understand what im trying to say. i have valuable coins my grandfather gave me when i was 3. i still have tham and always will. i was seeing these as something to add to my stuff to remember him by.
but again a apologize for not being clear. i think mike hit it dead on and im sorry i came off the wrong way to others, so lets consider this matter closed.
<< <i>To remember him by? The man is still alive and walking around... >>
but the fact is, everybody dies, and it is more likely than not that the grandfather will precede the OP in death by a significant length of time.
<< <i>To remember him by? The man is still alive and walking around... >>
plus ive only seen him about 6 times in my entire life?
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<< <i>To remember him by? The man is still alive and walking around... >>
but the fact is, everybody dies, and it is more likely than not that the grandfather will precede the OP in death by a significant length of time. >>
Thank you, Captain Obvious. I did not recognize you without your cape.
All that I'm suggesting is that it appears that the OP is selfishly conjuring an emotional attachment to the coin collection.
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<< <i>To remember him by? The man is still alive and walking around... >>
plus ive only seen him about 6 times in my entire life? >>
That's my point. Use the coins as a venue to better get to know the man.
<< <i>That's my point. Use the coins as a venue to better get to know the man. >>
I would agree with this. It seems you found something that connects you to your grandfather. Take advantage of that to get to know him better and build a relationship.
reading my post now it does look like i was trying to get the coins and it was the oppsite of what i was trying to convey
it all goes back to my unclarity, and im sorry.
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<< <i>To remember him by? The man is still alive and walking around... >>
but the fact is, everybody dies, and it is more likely than not that the grandfather will precede the OP in death by a significant length of time. >>
Thank you, Captain Obvious. I did not recognize you without your cape.
All that I'm suggesting is that it appears that the OP is selfishly conjuring an emotional attachment to the coin collection. >>
Of course it's obvious, but people tend to ignore the obvious. That's why people do stupid things. Besides, your "lottery ticket" comment seems to imply more than just an emotional attachment, but a financial attachment.
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While it wasn't obvious at first, it is obvious now that you aren't some heartless ba$tard waiting for your poor old gramps to expire. Since that is now clearly out of the way, I agree with previous replies that you should just be the caring grandson that you are and continue to share in your mutual enjoyment of coins with your gramps and whatever happens after that will happen. Hey, and welcome to the forum!
On another point: I thought KlectorKid was Curly, too, based on the avatar and tone............does Curly know about this?
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