No way I want to ship to this bidder!

Every fibre of my being (sophomoric hyperbole) screams don't ship.
Every warning flag is up, didn't pay or communicate in 3 days with zero feedback as a new buyer and from a part of the world notorious for scams.
This is the response to my e-mail to him after almost 3 days of non-payment or communication. Bear in mind I wouldn't have sent an inquiry out this soon (will usually wait a week or two) for a buyer with any kind of decent feedback, and my initial e-mail to him was a welcome to eBay, combined with a little advice about prompt communication to sellers if payment was going to be postal MO or check, etc. instead of paypal.
Hi Iaurentyvan6, I'm very glad to buy your items. I've already bought the money in South Korea for a long time and then I've just stareted buying the money from ebay as a currency collecter of South Korea. I wanna introduce good items that is in the ebay to korea. so i want you to send it to South Korea. ( South Korea is located between China and Japan and it's very near.)If it can, how much will the shipping cost? I hope that we make a best deal for a long time from this first deal. I look forward to hearing from you soon.Thank you. Matilda-86
I have a bidder in the US with great feedback who was .15 less than the winning bidder. Can I shut off the Korean bidder arbitrarily and offer the coin to the runner-up? What process do I have to follow? Yes, this is a first for me and I'm being awkward about it.
By the way, item is not real expensive, $26 + shipping...
Every warning flag is up, didn't pay or communicate in 3 days with zero feedback as a new buyer and from a part of the world notorious for scams.
This is the response to my e-mail to him after almost 3 days of non-payment or communication. Bear in mind I wouldn't have sent an inquiry out this soon (will usually wait a week or two) for a buyer with any kind of decent feedback, and my initial e-mail to him was a welcome to eBay, combined with a little advice about prompt communication to sellers if payment was going to be postal MO or check, etc. instead of paypal.
Hi Iaurentyvan6, I'm very glad to buy your items. I've already bought the money in South Korea for a long time and then I've just stareted buying the money from ebay as a currency collecter of South Korea. I wanna introduce good items that is in the ebay to korea. so i want you to send it to South Korea. ( South Korea is located between China and Japan and it's very near.)If it can, how much will the shipping cost? I hope that we make a best deal for a long time from this first deal. I look forward to hearing from you soon.Thank you. Matilda-86
I have a bidder in the US with great feedback who was .15 less than the winning bidder. Can I shut off the Korean bidder arbitrarily and offer the coin to the runner-up? What process do I have to follow? Yes, this is a first for me and I'm being awkward about it.

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Personally, I would sell to him. But that's me. I once had zero feedback and someone sold to me.
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Don
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will pay by,
sorry, sending you a check,
or, arranging for paypal, etc.
I'll keep you updated.
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<< <i>You might want to insure and add tracking at your own cost, just to be on the safe side. >>
I don't think you can on a shipment to Korea.
Lou
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Why step over the dollar to get to the cent? Because it's a 55DDO.
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Isn't there some obligation to ship to the winning bidder if they were not blocked or the auction specifically stated their country was not accepted?
I mean this as a real question, not as a smart azz reply.
1-Dammit Boy Oct 14,2003
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Wayne
eBay registered name:
Hard_ Search (buyer/bidder, a small time seller)
e-mail: wayne.whatley@gmail.com
Yes there certainly is.
Having said that, what would you do with a zero feedback bidder who lists a US mailing address, doesn't pay or communicate for several days then wants the item shipped to South Korea?
Ed to add: ... and still hasn't paid!
is that you end up being governed by inferiors. – Plato
<< <i>Isn't there some obligation to ship to the winning bidder
Yes there certainly is.
Having said that, what would you do with a zero feedback bidder who lists a US mailing address, doesn't pay or communicate for several days then wants the item shipped to South Korea?
Ed to add: ... and still hasn't paid! >>
I believe I understand the problem and honest, I wasn't trying to be a wise guy. I am a small time buyer on eBay, and a lot of auctions I look at say where they will not, or only will ship to. I certainly don't bid on them.
I have sent a mail asking if I could, but not often.
Actually, I just meant it as a question, and one more thing..............I can't imagine ANY seller should send before payment. I am pretty sure I am right in my thinking there.
I would say pay or you get a no pay notice, and relist it
1-Dammit Boy Oct 14,2003
International Coins
"A work in progress"
Wayne
eBay registered name:
Hard_ Search (buyer/bidder, a small time seller)
e-mail: wayne.whatley@gmail.com
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"Everything I have is for sale except for my wife and my dog....and I'm not sure about one of them."
I have no problem sending anything anywhere. I don't prejudge anyone. But once a successful and non-paying zero feedback bidder wants to change the shipping address (and is communicating poorly) to an area of the world we are suspicious of, I have a tendency to pull backwards on the reins.
Ed to add: This seems to have all the makings of "never received"-am I that paranoid?
is that you end up being governed by inferiors. – Plato
I was under the impression that paypal requires the seller to ship to the address that the buyer has registered with paypal (not necessarily the same one that is registered with ebay)....
is that you end up being governed by inferiors. – Plato
<< <i>I'm not sure... a USA shipping address was initially listed on eBay by the bidder and then the request to ship to South Korea followed. No mention of how payment (or any method of payment) was going to occur. >>
I'm not sure if ebay has any requirements for shipping addresses..... especially now that they have lessened their protection and are relying upon paypal to provide it..... Have to research that one for future reference....
bottom line... if they pay with paypal, require a confirmed shipping address.... if not, ship to their ebay address... eitherway, payment prior to shipping....
The seller may ask you to use a "confirmed" shipping address.
The seller may ask you to use a "confirmed" shipping address. This means that any items you pay for with PayPal must be shipped to a credit card billing address that you've registered at PayPal. If you've already done this, verify that this address is linked to your eBay address book.
To register a credit card billing address at PayPal and link it to your eBay address book:
Go to PayPal (www.paypal.com) and log in to your account. Access your Profile and update your Street Address, or add a new address, so that it matches the one on your credit card statement.
Return to your address book at eBay by going to the "Addresses" section under "My Account" in My eBay. Click the "View all shipping addresses" link.
Make sure that you have linked your address book to your PayPal account. If you see a button to Add PayPal Addresses, your address book is not linked. Click this button to link your address book to your PayPal account.
Once the accounts are linked, you will be able to select your PayPal registered credit card billing address as your shipping address. You may also choose to click the "Make primary" link beside the address to ensure that it will be selected automatically each time you checkout on eBay, unless you specify a different address.
If you don't want to pay with PayPal, you don't need to confirm your shipping address.
I've completed well over 600 auctions, which, to some standards may not be many since '97. I don't play games with buyers, I state it in the auction and if they divert I file a NPB with Ebay listing they didn't follow the auction. If they try diverting shipments, or otherwise I do the same. I've never had a negative as of yet, but who knows.
Why step over the dollar to get to the cent? Because it's a 55DDO.
My visceral reaction exactly!
When I send an invoice, review it twice, annotate any message, I'm fairly certain I have it right.
When an answer comes back vague, requiring a "dangerous" and different shipping address from that initially listed with no answers to my initial questions, I sense obfuscation. Ajaan has mentioned the possibility of a language barrier or problem- I keep this in the back of my mind.
It didn't help that I had to discover his initial e-mail to me in my junk mailbox instead of in my eBay messages folder...
Look, never had a problem with any buyer until now. My vibes may be wrong and yes, it may be language. In all fairness, his e-mail had a popup window which encouraged the downloading of a Korean language program.
I chose not to download it for obvious reasons. His e-mail, after all, was in English.
I don't pretend to be prescient, but I place a great deal of value on words, even in a forum or e-mail context and his reponses don't seem to add up, almost formulaic in nature.
My grandchild loves the Movie "Over the Hedge" and the turtle who describes his tail as "tingling" when he doesn't feel something is right best describes my feelings- something of mine is tingling.
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is that you end up being governed by inferiors. – Plato
Honestly, this was the first question that popped into my mind when I found his e-mail.
is that you end up being governed by inferiors. – Plato
This decision, should always be made prior to the sale..... It's a gut call from the seller.... Of course ,when I have done it, I have known my buyers (or sellers) for quite awhile.... sometimes, when a seller doesn't take paypal, I ask him if it's ok to have a friend send him a check (I'll reimburse my friend via paypal, etc...).... Never is this done AFTER the sale (unless I missed the NO PAYPAL caveat in the listing, which has happened)... but it's never been a problem.....
I do not take paypal, and have never really had an insurmountable problem.... although recently, I opened a second paypal account, a premier account, just to accomodate overseas bidders... If in doubt, I still don;t accept it, and have them send a check to a friend in the UK..... (most of my sales are inthe UK, as they are mostly GB coins.... Although I have sold to bidders in Australia and Japan already, with no problems....
To sum up, if you have a gut feeling that this is not right... go with that feeling.....
You are very correct!
Such a consideration has been prepared for.
is that you end up being governed by inferiors. – Plato
As have I and every forum member who sells on e-bay, I'm sure. Your comment concerning a "gut feeling" is what I'm going with.
Gotta add: I would love to be proved wrong.
is that you end up being governed by inferiors. – Plato
Accepting PayPal for overseas transactions of this nature is just like flushing the money down the toilet.
I hope the switch from USA address to South Korea address won't be a problem.
Otherwise, it'll be a well-earned lesson to me...
is that you end up being governed by inferiors. – Plato
Personally, like ajaan first said, and like you finally did, I would have agreed to this request. In my opinion, he bought the item for a friend of his in S.Korea, or he has already fliped it to a South Korean collector with no access or no trust to ebay.This could also explain the slight delay of the payment. Given the item's value, he probably preferred to save on double shipping, although in this scenario, I would have personally asked to see the item first, and if I was satisfied, I could have become a repeat buyer of yours on similar items, with the same request, ship the items won to South Korea.
So, it's a gamble, you might end up losing a few dollars, or you may have already won a satisfied repeat buyer. If the latter, I would ask him to pay registered shipping in the future, at least on higher value items.
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Despite a rough start and many misgivings this transaction turned out perfectly with good feedback. Kudos to those who had no hesitations in their post replies.
It's probably never the one you suspect, (with obvious exceptions).
is that you end up being governed by inferiors. – Plato