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Stone193
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Sorry this is longer than I thought - no response is necessary.
Well guys, I’m celebrating my 26th Wedding Anniversary today and thought I would share some words of wisdom.
If ya want to get an extra 5 miles per gallon out of your hobby - here's some tips in dealing with your wife.
Key: unlike your shiny new automobile – your brand new wife does NOT come with an Owner’s Manual. You’re on your own!
So here goes…in no particular order:
1. Never forget important dates.
2 Never try to "fix" something when she's telling you about her day - she just wants to vent - not hear an episode of "Home Improvement!"
3. Never give a present that has a plug! Unless she requests it.
4. Never leave her side at a party with a lot of strangers without asking her if it's ok - cause that makes them crazy!
5. There's no such thing as "woman's work!"
6. No matter how many times she says "something doesn't bother her" - it does! watch your back!
7. Don't bring her a present when YOU messed up or feel guilty - doesn't really work - bring her something when she DOESN'T expect it - works every time!
8. When they cry - don't tell them to stop - they need to let it run it's course.
9. Take her to places SHE enjoys also - she’ll NEVER consider walking endlessly around the convention center at the “National…” quality time!
10. No matter how pissed you get – THINK before you talk – could keep you from having to shovel yourself out of the grand canyon! And believe me - I have!
11. Never try to compete with your wife about how much you did – fogetaboutit! She ALWAYS thinks she does more. It’s some kind of genetic programming or something? Life’s short – let it go. After all, she has to put up with your hobby.
12. When all else fails…just say “I understand…” or “I’m truly sorry dear…” “You're right…” Saves a lot of wear and tear and you’ll get at least an extra 10 thousand miles on your tires.
13. Never, ever, ever try to explain your hobby to them… They won’t get it and baseball cards will always just be pictures of grown men unworthy of admiration and devoid of hero worship of any kind…
Well gents – I’ve got more but ya just gonna have to wait till next year! I hope this helps - I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed - but 26 yrs has enlightened me somewhat?
To those married in January? Have a good one!!!!
Mike
Well guys, I’m celebrating my 26th Wedding Anniversary today and thought I would share some words of wisdom.
If ya want to get an extra 5 miles per gallon out of your hobby - here's some tips in dealing with your wife.
Key: unlike your shiny new automobile – your brand new wife does NOT come with an Owner’s Manual. You’re on your own!
So here goes…in no particular order:
1. Never forget important dates.
2 Never try to "fix" something when she's telling you about her day - she just wants to vent - not hear an episode of "Home Improvement!"
3. Never give a present that has a plug! Unless she requests it.
4. Never leave her side at a party with a lot of strangers without asking her if it's ok - cause that makes them crazy!
5. There's no such thing as "woman's work!"
6. No matter how many times she says "something doesn't bother her" - it does! watch your back!
7. Don't bring her a present when YOU messed up or feel guilty - doesn't really work - bring her something when she DOESN'T expect it - works every time!
8. When they cry - don't tell them to stop - they need to let it run it's course.
9. Take her to places SHE enjoys also - she’ll NEVER consider walking endlessly around the convention center at the “National…” quality time!
10. No matter how pissed you get – THINK before you talk – could keep you from having to shovel yourself out of the grand canyon! And believe me - I have!
11. Never try to compete with your wife about how much you did – fogetaboutit! She ALWAYS thinks she does more. It’s some kind of genetic programming or something? Life’s short – let it go. After all, she has to put up with your hobby.
12. When all else fails…just say “I understand…” or “I’m truly sorry dear…” “You're right…” Saves a lot of wear and tear and you’ll get at least an extra 10 thousand miles on your tires.
13. Never, ever, ever try to explain your hobby to them… They won’t get it and baseball cards will always just be pictures of grown men unworthy of admiration and devoid of hero worship of any kind…
Well gents – I’ve got more but ya just gonna have to wait till next year! I hope this helps - I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed - but 26 yrs has enlightened me somewhat?
To those married in January? Have a good one!!!!
Mike
Mike
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Congratulations on your anniversary!
Tom
Always Buying & Collecting 1957 Topps Baseball 1914 cj,s 1978 bb and any Hof bb
Steve
Seeking primarily PSA graded pre-war "type" cards
My PSA Registry Sets
34 Goudey, 75 Topps Mini, Hall of Fame Complete Set, 1985 Topps Tiffany, Hall of Fame Players Complete Set
Happy Anniversary to you both.
Jeff
Jeff
Miscut Museum
My Mess
Congratulations and happy anniversary.
I learned this trick from an old friend. While his wife was away, he raided her closet. He wrote down the size of anything that had a tag on it - dresses, shirts, pants, jackets, underbritches, bra, shoes - everything. He printed all of the info on the back of a picture of his wife in his wallet. He said it has saved his bacon on enough last minute runs to the mall on forgotten dates to be worth is weight in PSA 10 Mantles.
Collector of Pittsburgh Pirates cards for a slightly less stupid reason.
My Pirates Collection
....and choose your battles.
Your words of wisdom are well said. I am only at 5+ years myself but your words ring true.
There should be a manual but your right!
They are pretty much programmed the same we just have to do what is on his list - A happy wife is a happy life- Dr. Phil
On the same topic, I heard a joke from a Sunday morning preacher:
A couple had been married 60 years. The old guy was asked what is the secret of his marriage's longevity.
He said "For our 25th anniversary, I took my wife to Fiji. For our 50th anniversary, I went back and picked her up."
"All evil needs to triumph is for good men to do nothing."
I'd add this to your list....
3a.... Never give a present that has a plug! Make sure it takes batteries.
Your mileage may vary, but I've found the more upfront I am about what I spend on the hobby, the better off I am. If you try to hide it, she WILL find out, and she will be angry. More marriages end because of money than any other reason. I see a lot of posts about a secret fund to buy cards, having things shipped to the office, etc... I hope these people are joking or have agreed to a don't ask/don't tell policy with their wives. Otherwise, your secret is a time bomb!
Joe
a couple more if stone will allow:
14) If you go out gambling always tell her that you broke even. If you win she will want part of the winnings and if you lose-OHHHHHHH!
15) get tivo. that way when she rambles on about a topic that you have no interest either on the phone or live you can pause and pay attention (as long as it doesn't go over a half-hour)
16) when she dresses up tell her she looks nice.
17) never complain about her family no matter how much they annoy you. she probably knows that some of them are idiots too and she doesn't need you to remind her of that.
18) when you are go out to a nice restaraunt stay focused on her and not some other hot looking woman eating there too.
I did have more - but the post was way too long.
I agree on the family issue - I would've added these next year but so, so, so true!
Never, never, ever criticize her siblings - She CAN - you CAN'T!
If she ever asks you if another woman is pretty the answer is, no. And don't pause before you answer. The same goes if she asks if something makes her look fat or if she asks if she's fat. The answer is no. And the faster your answer the better.
If she says that she doesn't want a present for an occasion aka b-day, anniv., or valentines day. Buy her one anyway because she's lying.
Don't lie to her because they have a second sense that they can tell that your lying anyways. So just tell the truth.
If she asks what's more important your card collection or her. Say her.... and hope that her lie detector isn't working that day.
I pray one day my wife doesn't make me choose between my collection or her because that would be one of the saddest days of my life. Damn, I sure would miss her.
<< <i>Mike - congrats partner. It takes a lot of something to make it 26 years. Your advice is sage, as always.
On the same topic, I heard a joke from a Sunday morning preacher:
A couple had been married 60 years. The old guy was asked what is the secret of his marriage's longevity.
He said "For our 25th anniversary, I took my wife to Fiji. For our 50th anniversary, I went back and picked her up." >>
Mark
Like - "me and my wife hold hands all the time...to keep from killing each other!"
"There's nothing I wouldn't do for my wife...and there's nothing she wouldn't do for me...and that's how we goe thru life...do nothing for each other!"
Truer words of wisdom have neve been spoken.
My key to a happy marriage. I married "Miss Right. " I have found out that here first name is "Always!!!"
I speak two words and I stay happily married. "Yes Dear."
She doesn't care about the hobby as long as it makes me happy.
Good luck to the rest of you married men.
"I spent 50% of my money on alcohol, women, and gambling. The other half I wasted.
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Ralph
Great advice, as always.
shawn
Seriously though, that is some good advice.........
Happily married 11 1/2 years....
Go Phillies
Im taking the plunge for the first time this July and your words of advice will certainly come in handy many many times in the years to come
-- Yogi Berra
(Yes, I've watched Dr. Phil a few times.
<< <i>i hit the 20 year mark last month.
a couple more if stone will allow:
14) If you go out gambling always tell her that you broke even. If you win she will want part of the winnings and if you lose-OHHHHHHH!
15) get tivo. that way when she rambles on about a topic that you have no interest either on the phone or live you can pause and pay attention (as long as it doesn't go over a half-hour)
16) when she dresses up tell her she looks nice.
17) never complain about her family no matter how much they annoy you. she probably knows that some of them are idiots too and she doesn't need you to remind her of that.
18) when you are go out to a nice restaraunt stay focused on her and not some other hot looking woman eating there too. >>
17 gets me everytime. Small doses are okay, but if we have to stay more than 1 day, I feel like Jimmy Piersall. I can not believe that my wife came from that family.
Congrats Stone. Past 5 years last October for me.
My wife asks me if I will love her always. I say sure, which way first.
Some additions:
When buying a home, make sure it has a basement or a room for your stuff and call the room yours. I got the basement to myself. Let her decorate the rest of the house.
Don't knock the in-laws. My wife and sisters are close. They love doing weekend trips. House to myself, sleep late and not too many chores. Heaven.
If she goes to a show/store with you, take her out for lunch/dinner afterwards.
AJ
I admire a man who is confident enough in himself to let the better half have the last word. Twenty-six years says it all!
Here's to another 26...
congrats on your anniversary. i am 37 yrs old and this past november my parents celebrated their 53rd anniversary. that is a long time.
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2 Never try to "fix" something when she's telling you about her day - she just wants to vent - not hear an episode of "Home Improvement!"
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This is probably the one that we (men) overlook. It's in our nature to fix, i.e., to let someone vent about a problem and not give advice can be very difficult.
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<< <i>
2 Never try to "fix" something when she's telling you about her day - she just wants to vent - not hear an episode of "Home Improvement!"
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This is probably the one that we (men) overlook. It's in our nature to fix, i.e., to let someone vent about a problem and not give advice can be very difficult. >>
Andrew
You get the award for the post of the nite!!!
So true - it's the one we ALWAYS mess up on - she's venting and before finishing - we jump in with all kinds of solutions where there's NO problem!
Thanx
mike
Congrats Mike!
Kevin
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The one thing that comes to my mind about my marriage that works and I encourage this with any kind of relationship:
Show you value her.
I don't mean flowers. I don't mean gifts.
It's about saying thank you to simple things.
"Thanks for washing the dishes."
"Thanks for making dinner."
"Thanks for getting the laundry."
"Thanks for emptying the dishwasher."
If you can make this a habit, your marriage or any relationship will go far.
I've been with my wife for 13 years, married 10 years. Not a day goes by I take her for granted nor she me.