I'm back and irritated

Rickc300

Greetings everyone! I have been offline for a month and a half due to a sudden unexpected request for a divorce and my having to live in my truck and motels. I moved into an apartment yesterday and got cable (INTERNET) today. I have the computer set up on the kitchen counter since all I have is my computer, a new bed and TV. Things have been tough but I now have a place to call home and things are going to get better. Time heals all wounds right?

Thanks,
Rick

shirohniichan

That sucks. I can't pretend to know what you're going through, but I wish you the best of luck.

Garneteye

Been there and the best advice I can give is: Don't look back, make a plan to get back on your feet and get on with your life!

Good luck

coinkat

hope things turn out okay

worldcoinguy

Sorry to hear that.....hang in there. Maybe the hobby can take your mind off things for awhile.

cladking

Good luck.

1jester

You're in my prayers, Rick. Hang in there.

dcamp78

Rick,

Do you know why divorces are so expensive?

Because they are worth every penny.

You should somehow symbolically make that the End of
the previous chapter in your life and then move on with
the next chapter...

It takes about a year to get back to "normal".
Be careful of rebound relationships. I almost made a BAD mistake...

If you have kids, see them as often as possible.

Keep your chin up brother.

IlikeZARcoins

Best of luck Rick, I always think that things happen for a reason.

I betcha that in a while you'll find something wonderful & amazing ( although it may not seem like it now ).

theboz11

Been there and done that a couple times, I agree totally with dcamp78, things get much better if you keep your head about you. After my second, I didn't even date for over 10 years, found a wonderful person on the net, on a Political Discussion forum. Good luck!

tbirde56

Good Luck!
Been there, AM there 2.

oldshep

It's tough but survivable. Keep communicting on the forums and look ahead - take care of yourself!!!!!

Been there!

Shep

ozzysdad

Sorry to hear it............ I have been in the exact same position. It get's better.........The previous posts to this thread are so correct. Take it a day at a time. Enjoy your freedom and get focused on the future. I've been down that road 4 time's. Needless to say i'll never get married again. I might find a live in? Last but not least, Don't let it get you down, Start dating one of her friend's and alway's smile when you see her, and never let her know it bummed you out. If you have kid's, Take them often, Be sure to have your attorney allow you to take them as a tax deduction every other year. You'll have to also get a form from the I.R.S., If you are ordered to pay Child support thru the court, Make sure you pay it thru the court. I paid my 2nd. wife by personal check and got signed receipt's for the child support, 5 yr's. later she was wanting her support for the month early, This was on the friday before her birthday, I didn't want her partying on the money intended for my daughter. So i told her it would be the following monday before i could pay her. She threatened me with Child Support Enforcement, I said "Fine" go for it, I just knew they wouldn't do anything over 1 payment that wasn't even late. She went in complaining about 160.00, Well, Lo' and Behold.......... They went back and checked the court record's and suddenly the 160.00 she was complaining about turned into almost $7,000.00. I took all my receipt's to the CSEU, and showed them i had made my payment's, cancelled check's and receipt's, the work's. Guess what......... The Judge said that since it wasn't paid thru the court as ordered. Everything i had paid was considered a gift. My pay was garnished and i had to take a nite job to make up the difference, Then she tried to have that job garnished. I quit the nite job. Then less than 1200.00 left to pay. She gave me custody, and good ole CSEU, Well they still kept garnishing me for 2 more payment's, and promised they would be returned. Well, the Ex- had already receiveved them and cashed them. Never saw that money again. And if you do have children and want to get the tax deduction, Be sure to get the form from the I.R.S. signed by her and the deduction should begin in your behalf the first year of the divorce and stated clearly in the Settlement Agreement.


D-I-V-O-R-C-E = The screwing you get, For the screwing you got. They get the mine, you get the shaft.



Hey, I really feel for you guy's.......

Hopefully, you will survive....

AuldFartte

I wish you the best, Rick.
Hang in there ... things DO get better. Having been extremely close to that situation (9 month separation with the "D" word being mentioned in every communication) I know what you feel right now. I honestly now wish that we had gone through the divorce then, because it looks like it will happen again, and probably soon. And this time I have a helluva lot more assets than I did 10 years ago

tonyhar

I have been there too and although it takes time, the light at the end of the tunnel is not the express train !

Life does begin again just take each day at a time and find something good in each day.

I found my hobbies helped .

Justhavingfun

Jeepers, Rick. What a bummer. My heart goes out to you. But hang in there. I have a close personal friend going through the same thing and he found himself a Mint State 68 to replace the body-bagged model.

Meanwhile, Ozzy's Dad is giving you some great advice.

Best wishes,


Just Having Fun

drjules

Rick

My sympathies, I know I am very lucky to still be with my wife and can only imagine how hard a break up could be.

One day a time eh

Dr J

Myqqy

You'll have to also get a form from the I.R.S., If you are ordered to pay Child support thru the court, Make sure you pay it thru the court. I paid my 2nd. wife by personal check and got signed receipt's for the child support, 5 yr's. later she was wanting her support for the month early, This was on the friday before her birthday, I didn't want her partying on the money intended for my daughter. So i told her it would be the following monday before i could pay her. She threatened me with Child Support Enforcement, I said "Fine" go for it, I just knew they wouldn't do anything over 1 payment that wasn't even late. She went in complaining about 160.00, Well, Lo' and Behold.......... They went back and checked the court record's and suddenly the 160.00 she was complaining about turned into almost $7,000.00. I took all my receipt's to the CSEU, and showed them i had made my payment's, cancelled check's and receipt's, the work's. Guess what......... The Judge said that since it wasn't paid thru the court as ordered. Everything i had paid was considered a gift. My pay was garnished and i had to take a nite job to make up the difference, Then she tried to have that job garnished. I quit the nite job. Then less than 1200.00 left to pay. She gave me custody, and good ole CSEU, Well they still kept garnishing me for 2 more payment's, and promised they would be returned. Well, the Ex- had already receiveved them and cashed them. Never saw that money again. And if you do have children and want to get the tax deduction, Be sure to get the form from the I.R.S. signed by her and the deduction should begin in your behalf the first year of the divorce and stated clearly in the Settlement Agreement.

Holy Crap!!!
I'm going to get divorced soon also..... good luck to you guys....

Rickc300

Thanks everyone for your support, your words and caring really help, I have been reading the posts here and looking at all the other posts I have missed over the last month. I still cry when alone and have time to think, but reading these posts really do help get my mind off of my personal problems. But now I am even more irritated! I just went into my eBay account and have a non paying bidder strike against me. It is for a coin that I purchased for 1.84 and over the last couple of years have spent a couple of hundred dollars with this seller. He filed it because I did not return his emails. Grrrrr... Strike One! Now I am really irritated... I have been avoiding eBay because I can't afford to look at coins let alone trying to bid on one.
Again, thanks for your support and advice. I am strong and will rebound.

Rick

cosmicdebris

Good luck Rick. I know exactly how you feel and what you are going thru. What everyone else said is true just move forward and don't look back.

ttxp

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Hitting an emotional brick wall, all seems fine one moment, all falls apart the next. Everyone goes through something like it at some point, so everyone understands.

Time does heal. I will say that you are already doing far better than many of us do when we experience so much change in so short a time.

You are honest with yourself that it hurt, that honesty in turn allows you to express that pain to others and find the friends you need, kudos to you.

I wish you well in this recovery.

Conder101

Rick, So answer his emails, explain why you have been unavailable, and if you haven't paid for the item do so. He can withdraw the NPB claim and remove the strike from you.