Another ebay rant, feedback hostage!

RipublicaninMass · July 18, 2005 3:47AM

not posting his selling ID...yet~! I told the seller I was very happy, and as a buyer, please leave me feedback. he responds "you leave first, then I will"
My reponse was "Are you holding my feedback hostage? I told you I was happy, and I did my part of the transaction, I paid. Now it is your duty to leave me feedback first, as I paid, then I will do the same.

he replies "man what are you talking about you emailed me about feedback i simply replied not a problem leave feedback and when i get a chance i will do the same don't send me these absurd emails about holding hostage or whatever i do my feedback after i have mailed all incoming pymts and after all items are shipped then after a while a few days or so i start sending out feedback what is you're problem i don't know why you fly off the handle with this email "

Has been 2 weeks, still hasn't "had a chance" to leave feedback. Just to clarify, he NEVER said he will leave fb when he has a chance just "you leave first, then I will" JERK! Any similar stories to share??

phreakydancin · July 18, 2005 3:57AM

As a buyer I leave feedback after I get it. If not, I don't lose any sleep over it, and I certainly won't email the seller requesting it. Just ignore it and move on.

larryallen73 · July 18, 2005 4:05AM

It sucks but that's Ebay. Just do your part, be a good Ebayer, leave feedback and over time one or two people who don't leave you feedback doesn't matter. In the end there are a lot of other things in life to get upset about. If, on the other hand, he was threatening to leave you a neg then I would be up in arms but just failing to leave you any feedback is no big deal. I would let it go.

joeyuk · July 18, 2005 4:06AM

I agree with you but sometimes a seller will leave feedback upon receit of payment and then the buyer wants
a partial refund because they are stupid and feel they are in a position of power. As a seller I leave feedback
when payment is made and as a buyer when item is received as described or refund is provided. Joe

Boopotts · July 18, 2005 4:11AM

No similar stories, but here's some advice---

Switch to decaf.

smallstocks · July 18, 2005 4:14AM

My take on this differs. For a first time buyer, I leave feedback after they do to make sure it isn't some jerk trying to mess with my feedback. Once a buyer comes back for more, I leave feedback immediately upon receipt of payment.

Mike

zef204 · July 18, 2005 4:16AM

I as a seller leave feedback in blocks. If I know I am going to auction off 100 things and stagger over a few days, I usually will wait until about a week after the last auction ends and see what still sitting in the sold pile. I will then go and leave feedback for all the items I have sent out and re-follow up with the people who haven't sent me payment yet.

If a buyer e-mails me asking for feedback, I generally leave it right away to avoid situations like you have played out above.

carew4me · July 18, 2005 4:28AM

No similar stories, but here's some advice---

Switch to decaf.

zef204 · July 18, 2005 4:31AM

<< <i>Switch to decaf. >>

lostdart58 · July 18, 2005 4:55AM

Obsessing over feedbak for two weeks???

Switch to decaf...........better yet shut it down and step away from the computor!!!!

Boopotts · July 18, 2005 5:37AM

This reminds me of the time a poster named 'Big Kid At Heart' went postal after having dealers and fellow collectors emailing him and offering him cards that he needed for some registered set or another. The absurdity is actually two pronged:

First, you have to actually get bunged up by a 'you show me yours, I'll show you mine' feedback situation.

Second, you have to be sufficiently riled to actually get in front of a keyboard and vent about it. In my estimation these feedback stand-offs are about as irritating (and only about as grave) as having the paperboy throw the Sunday paper in the begonias. Do you wish it didnt' happen? Yeah-- I guess so. But I can't imagine the circumstances under which I would feel compelled to type a message voicing my dissatisfaction.

WinPitcher · July 18, 2005 5:56AM

NEG HIM!

orion9578 · July 18, 2005 6:14AM

<< <i>NEG HIM! >>

ctsoxfan · July 18, 2005 6:18AM

<< <i>NEG HIM! >>

Man, tough crowd today!

stown · July 18, 2005 7:30AM

I think you came off a little too harsh. Using the terms "you holding my feedback hostage?" and "Now it is your duty" can be seen as a threat.

If you had a pleasant transaction and didn't have any issues prior to the emails, just leave a positive. Doesn't matter who "should" leave it first; especially if you want more feedbacks. Just do it.

metsfan · July 18, 2005 8:18AM

Boopotts:
What ever happened to BKAH? I haven't seen him post in some time.

Stone193 · July 18, 2005 9:15AM

<< <i>Boopotts:
What ever happened to BKAH? I haven't seen him post in some time. >>

metsfan
Jeff's around - I have seen him post at the open forum for one place - he just doesn't post here like he used to - I miss him here.

mike

jskirwin · July 18, 2005 10:57AM

I offer a 100% guarantee + shipping return policy.
I also wait for the buyer to tell me he's satisfied by feedback. Once I get his feedback, I give him feedback.

Am I holding feedback hostage? Decaf is evil but may be called for here. I view it as part of the whole process.

I offer a good.
He pays for the good.
I ship the good.
He receives the good.
IF he likes it THEN
He gives me feedback.
I give him feedback.
End transaction.
ELSE
He tells me that he's not happy WITHOUT negging me.
I give him his money back plus his shipping costs.
End transaction.

This happened once out of the 100 or so transactions I've had - and the one time it did happen it was my fault.
At the end of the transaction the customer got his money back and I avoided a neg - then flipped the product around with an accurate description for almost the same money.

Another ebay rant, feedback hostage!

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