My wife tends to lower & lower my enthusiasm to collect coins...Does yours?

razorface1027

She's constantly nagging and making snide remarks in reference to my coins. It takes alot to do this but....SHE'S REALLY PISSING ME OFF.


Tom

Purple73

Razorface......kinda hard to comment on this situation because she is your wife and I'm not interested in pissing you off.

orie

Wouldn't it make more since to buy a painting, oriental rug or a nice piece of furniture then have those dirty old coins? You're not going to win that argument!!!

JRocco

My wife stays neutral, like Switzerland.

ms70

This is really simple to fix. Buy another REALLY EXPENSIVE coin. She'll either get the message or stop talking to you.

Millertime

My wife doesn't knock my collection too bad, but she thinks it's only fair that she gets to spend the same amount on things she wants as I spend on coins.

DNADave

Take her somewhere nice for the weekend, out of town.

(Make sure there's a coin shop there. After day 1 and night 1, accidentally "find" the coin shop while driving around. You should get away with at least one coin purchase.)

kranky

My wife is very supportive of my hobby. She knows that I enjoy it greatly and even though she doesn't have much of an interest she tells me to get whatever I want and go to whatever shows I want to go to - she's happy because it makes me happy. She knows I would never spend money on coins without first taking care of all other obligations including savings.

I feel bad for you, razorface, because I know that would really be tough for me to take.

RGL

I regale my wife with tales of all the wonderful wealth I am building by turning raw cherries into values worth many, many multiples of what I paid ... then, she drops the killer: "OK, when are you going to sell?''

ksteelheader

My wife supports my habit and even loves going to shows with me!

gemini12398

Man, are you lucky!

CoinHusker

My wife is very supportive as well. She also shows amazing interest and enjoys seeing her two boys (our son and me) get deeper and deeper into the habit, er, hobby.

Russ

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baron

i don't usually reply to threads like this but

my wife really encourages my hobby and actually encourages it as this hobby makes me happy

one day as i was lamenting losing on an auction i had bid on, she made the most endearing comment.

"next time bid higher #$%&$*#"

her name is ruth

stev32k

Better be careful about how you handle the situation - here's what can happen Link

tsacch

My wife has a state quarter collection in those map/booklets from original bank rolls and a pile of them in a cigar box. I dont have the heart to tell her the ones in the cigar box are just circ junk and there are jillions of them just like it..........

MrSpud

MrsSpud likes to collect coins too. She usually spends more on them than me too. Maybe you can find some kind of coin that your wife likes and buy her a few as a gift and get her started...

baron

she is pretty and intelligent

and i have all the money

66Tbird

For me it's a package deal.

But she's a girlfriend and not a wife.

nankraut

AHHH! how lucky I am. My wife has supported me and my crazy hobby for 50 yr now.

LindeDad

Got rid of the wife kept the coins. She didn't think they were worth anything either.

pharmer

<< <i>I regale my wife with tales of all the wonderful wealth I am building by turning raw cherries into values worth many, many multiples of what I paid ... then, she drops the killer: "OK, when are you going to sell?'' >>



Ditto, to the word.

LincolnCentMan

My wife tends to lower & lower my enthusiasm to collect coins...Does yours?

Are you kidding me? My wife has better looking coins that I do!

David

dpoole

<< <i>Are you kidding me? My wife has better looking coins that I do! >>



I've seen Holli's coins, and it's true!

My wife was tolerant but bemused, until I sold my Lincoln collection. We built the new room on the house that she wanted with the profits (the "Lincoln Room"), and now she thinks I'm a genius!

Wrong on both counts, but I'm certainly not going to enlighten her now!

Hedger

My wife does not support my acquisition of coins and thinks it's a total waste of money and i'm a moron.

Bustman

My wife has been a lot more supportive since we lost a fair amount of money in the last stock market crash. Why? Because If I hadn't bought all those coins, we likely would have lost that money too. Another thing that helps is to sell a couple of coins for a healthy profit now and then. The wife will really dig that!

stev32k

<< She's constantly nagging and making snide remarks in reference to my coins>>

If she is doing that then you need to look for other - more important problems in your marriage. This sounds like a classic symptom of "something is not right here", and coin collecting is not the cause (btw-been there, done that, and have the tee shirt to prove it).

TonedPeaceNut

For the first two years after I re-entered the hobby she was always nagging me and putting down the hobby. Now, our marriage is stronger than ever and she's even starting to encourage me.

I told her tonight on the phone that I went to Goldberg & Superior to view auction lots. She was actually interested and was asking questions about which coins I wanted to buy.

Just hang in there, perhaps she might come around.


TPN

Shamika

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kieferscoins

I guess I'm lucky being single right now but I want to get married in the future and if she is anti coins it sure would be hard.

Cameron Kiefer

nesvt

razorface1027, I'm right there with you buddy! Don't have the slightest reason why, but my wife hates the hobby. "Honey, it's a VAM-1AU, only one other one known!". "Good, shove it up your %$$ and maybe you'll get change back.". I wish I was kidding. Can't complain too much, she's supportive in many other aspects of our lives, family, and kids. For some reason, she hates the "collecting" part. She'd rather visit the dentist than a coin shop. I've tried a few things. Thought she had an interest in silver bars, then some gold coins (maybe if I could afford larger gold coins?). Nothing worked. I gave up trying to get her interested and hope things will change in the future. Right now, I do it on my own time and try not to get too enthused in front of her. As long as all your other responsibilities are taken care of, you should be able to relax and enjoy. Just make sure you balance the other stuff in your relationship. You shouldn't have to give up either.

sumdunce

My wife leaves my hobbies alone...

I believe it is due to one of my hobbies (other than coins, metal detecting, my 1933 Dodge sedan, computers, etc...) is to go to police auctions and buy diamond jewelry. Once I cut the stones free, I scrap the gold (usually get back about 75% of the investiment) and then take the stones and get them mounted into something nice for her.

Like I said not one complaint about any of the coins I purchased regardless of the price.

Neptune

Guess I'm lucky too . . . Altho hubby doesn't collect - he occasionally shows interest (if I force the issue), and he lets me collect (even though I don't work a regular job) - as long as I keep the bills paid and priorities in order.

From a woman's viewpoint, maybe she thinks you spend more time with coins, than her - or even like them more than her. Maybe you can try only working on coins when she is doing something else, and try to make some special time for her each week - like take her out to eat. Surprise her and bring her home a nice plant or flowers - that should last for at least a week. Workplay with your coins when she is gone, or busy. Try to make more family time for awhile. And if worse comes to work - collect on the sly.

CarlWohlforth

I'm one of the lucky ones. Mine even started collecting stuff she likes. She has all the proof sets from 1941 through now. Then she started collecting Philippine coins.

GAT

My wife of 42 years keeps saying, "what am I suppose to do with this stuff after you kick the bucket"? Guess at the age of 70 she's expecting me to go any day. Ha Ha, I am outwitting her and expect to be around another 20 years or so. I have been selling off some of my possessions to keep her happy but we have a son who's is a collector and I am sure he would help his mother if the unexpected happens.

Myqqy

she's happy because it makes me happy

This is how my wife is........ I feel sorry for guys here who are married to women that don't think this way.....

Ryana

I'm single right now. Because of all the stories of insane ex's, I'll definitely be signing a good prenuptial agreement when I get married some day.

Trime

My wife is somewhat suspect of my hobby.
Me too (lol).

michael

i am not married

Millertime

I commented earlier about my wife not knocking my collection too bad and decided she's really more supportive than that. I had the chance to buy a complete set ('86-'04) of 1 oz Chinese Gold Pandas for about $10,000 from a good friend. We had an agreement that I would pay him over the course of a couple of years but before I did it I needed to talk to my wife. Needless to say it was a couple of days of arguing but after thinking about it (and agreeing with her) I decided it was a bad idea so I told him I wasn't going to do it. The next day my wife said if it's something I really want I should do it. She also likes that our 11 year old son is getting into the coins.

All in all I'd have to say she is pretty supportive.

Millertime

wvinchic

Well, my husband and I both collect coins, though I do more than he does. However, we each have hobbies that the other one doesn't. For instance, today, he finally got to bring home his Mac 11 (machine gun) and his Silenced Upper for another one of his guns. He spends a LOT more money on guns than I do on coins. Yeah, I told him that I thought his Mac 11 was silly and I didn't see a need for it, but that's what he wanted. Now, when he does start spending more time with his guns than his family, I do get upset and he gets an earful. At this stage in the game, we live 450 miles from the nearest family. So, I don't have a mom or a sister nearby to hang out with. Sure, I have a couple of female friends, but we all have really young kids and can't go out much. So, I want him home with me most of the time unless he takes our 4 year old with him to the range. She loves it! She has a little Chipmunk she gets to shoot with daddy.

Anyway, it sounds like your wife(s) need to get a hobby other than taking care of the kids or cleaning house. Try to get her into scrapbooking or antiques or something of the sort. And get this offer to take care of the kids yourself for a day on the weekend. That is a sure fire way to make your wifey happy!!! So happy, that you may get repaid! *wink wink* You guys can all spare sometime for your wife to get out of the house and spend some time on HER hobbies.

If she is still making fun of your coin hobby, sit her down and have a conversation with her about how she is hurting your feelings. That will get her attention quick. Marriage is a two way street. If you are mean, nasty, short and won't listen, you can't expect to get respect in return. I am not saying that any of you do these things. Of course, I am speaking in generalities.

Have fun!

Stacy

Newmismatist

<< <i>My wife tends to lower & lower my enthusiasm to collect coins...Does yours?

Are you kidding me? My wife has better looking coins that I do!

David >>



Holli has a good eye - some very nice toned Morgans!

raycyca

My wife thinks coins are boring. "They all look alike. You say that you got a great deal, BUT, when are you ever going to sell any?" Of course I collect Kennedy halves and yes they are all the same. But, a POP 1 or 3 MS 68 Kennedy is nothing to sneeze at. I have given her rainbow toned Morgans, an MS 69 silver eagle set piece by piece, Lewis and Clark sets( she's related to them and part indian). I have let her buy 4 registered dogs since Aug and she still thinks I'm still crazy to spend money on slabbed coins. We go everywhere and yes, I do cook and clean. At least we don't fight about it. We do collect antique Boston and Sandwich glass together. She usually let's me spend what I want, within limits, but, tells me not to expect any congratulations on nice finds, etc. I guess I'm like many of you out there. After 22 years we have a good marrage, but, I rely on folks out here to "talk shop" so to speak. Thanks for being there guys and gals!!! This is my AA support group. Ray

CUEBALL

I don't say much to my wife about coins and she doesn't say much to me.So far that has worked great.Out of sight,out of mind.

razorface1027

Anyway, it sounds like your wife(s) need to get a hobby other than taking care of the kids or cleaning house

Hmmh, polygamy...Dump one or two and maybe even three of my wives, and I'm sure I'll find one that's as enthusiastic about coins as I am.



Tom


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Russ;

The problem with that is...I'M ALREADY DIVORCED FROM HER.

1977topps

I am happy to report my wife doesn't give a rat's @$$ about my coins, baseball cards, comics, you name it. And yes, she knows about my hobbies. In fact, when I try to talk about them, she rolls her eyes and ignores me! It's great!

mrfred

I think Stacy makes a number of excellent points.

My wife, bless her, is interested in my coin collecting and seems to support it. The main thing she says -- which I like and with which I strongly agree -- is that the coin collecting is good for my health. It calms me down, and she sees and notices that (frequently). She's into eastern philosophy, and she claims that working on my coins appears to put me into a zen-like calm. I don't know about the zen bit, but the calm is true. Coins take me away from the stress of my job.

carl

scary as to so few women jumped on this message. Must be a shortage of women coin collectors out there. I noticed that at all the coin shows around here there are mostly men also. More women at the gun shows and shooting ranges than at a coin show. This could possible mean men don't spend enough time attempting to indoctrinate women into coin collecting. Maybe the increase in women at the gun shows are signs they intend to get rid of their men and take over the coin collection therefore don't tell them what they are worth, just make it sound like fun.

razorface1027

It calms me down

Yeah, me too. I tell her that I find solitude, amidst the chaos in my home, through coins. She exclaims..."It's just another one of your excuses." I call it a NWS...No Win Situation.


Tom

bikenut

Men collect things......
Women buy things and never throw those things away...
Therein lies the difference. Don't tell your wife or girlfriend you're 'collecting coins'....
Tell them you're buying them. They may be able to relate better to it....

Hedger

For as long as I've been frequenting my local coin store I have only run into two women looking at the coins in my dealer's cases and only two lady stamp collectors, one young probably in her late twenties or early thirties and one in her seventies.