wife won't let me buy coins

Hedger

How do I get around this? I can no longer afford to buy the coins I really like. I can't seem to achieve perfection in my collection. I believe getting the coins you want is part of the fun not wanting them. Sometimes I feel it is a futile battle. I suppose it is for most collectors. How do you guys get around this?

goose3

I generally buy whatever I want and don't tell her unless she asks.

JohnZ

I get around it by being single.

goldrush00013

I gotta divorce!

Placid

My wife could care less as long I don't spend too much.

jbsteven

find a coin you can buy for let's say $1000 that you KNOW you could resell and make maybe $150-$250 on QUICKLY. do this and show her and I bet she won't give you a hard time again.

ThatImpalaDude

I tell my wife that rare coins are such a great investment that we are going to enjoy one heck of a retirement. So far she has bought this line of bu--. Sure hope she doesnt read this post.

Steve
Impalasteve's #2 Walker Short Set

PhillyJoe

I feel your pain. My wife said if I buy one more coin, she's going to leave me.


















Boy, am I gonna miss her!

Joe

mgoodm3

My wife let's me buy coins as long as I don't go too overboard. Gotta make her feel sorry for you. You work so hard and you deserve a nice coin occasionally.

Russ

Click here for the solution to your problem.

Russ, NCNE

DorkGirl

Steve---too funny!!!! That's the same exact thing I tell my husband!!!

BBN

Same here. She pretty much lets me buy what I want as long as it doesn't involve credit. For bigger stuff I keep myself a secret stash of money and get what I want when I have the money. Most likely she already knows my secret stash anyway.

If it's you're money and you guys can afford it she should let you, but debt, bill & kids come first. If you're working and she isn't then you should stand up and declare that you work hard and should get what you want once in awhile. My brother has that problem. He works, makes good money and his wife stays at home even though all kids are in school, but she makes an issue anytime he wants to get something. He brought up a good point the other day. He's a NASCAR fan and wants to buy some of the diecast collectible cars and his wife basically said "No don't get those we don't have the money for you to buy toys." He then replied "I make good money and work hard for it and I should be able to reward myself for it once in awhile and if you think we have money problems then maybe it's time for you to get a job!" I was proud of him!

Skipper53

Hedger, if you're doing your share in maintaining the household,
you deserve to have a hobby.
Granted, coin collecting can become very expensive.
Saving for the next big purchase may be easier if you
open a checking account in your name, make regular deposits
after paying the bills, and using that account when you find your
next "must have" coin.
good luck.

KUCH

Collecting can be addictive, that means being out of touch with reality. If your collecting is "under control", start buying AND selling, and always give your wife a part of the profit! She'll dig the income and you'll be an addict again.

Prometheus183

It's really simple. I've turned several things around here into coin-op machines,... the lawnmower, the weed eater, etc. etc. IF I don't get the coins I really want, those machines don't operate.

Craig

kranky

You said you can't afford to buy the coins you really like. If you can't, you can't.

It's not right to spend more than you can afford to on a hobby, even if you might (might!) make a profit down the road. Coins are illiquid and there's no guarantee you can sell a coin in a hurry for its true value. First must come taking care of the bills, staying out of debt, and saving for the future.

Why not refocus your collecting interest on something that is more in line with your collecting budget? There are limitless areas of collecting to work on.

Best of luck!

poptopsRus

Sounds like time to trade her in

ddink

<< <i>He then replied "I make good money and work hard for it and I should be able to reward myself for it once in awhile and if you think we have money problems then maybe it's time for you to get a job!" I was proud of him >>



How much was his hospital bill?!

ldhair

I lost one that way once.

Not the coin.

nepbrs44

D-I-V-O-R-C-E

BBN

<< <i>

<< <i>He then replied "I make good money and work hard for it and I should be able to reward myself for it once in awhile and if you think we have money problems then maybe it's time for you to get a job!" I was proud of him >>



How much was his hospital bill?! >>



Dirty looks doesn't cause physical injury.

He had every right to say what he did. She hasn't worked a day in her life in their 14 year marriage. He's supported her the whole time so he's got a right to do what he wants. She sure didn't have any problem spending $100 to have her hair done.

K6AZ

Trade her in for a more recent model.

ddink

<< <i>He had every right to say what he did. She hasn't worked a day in her life in their 14 year marriage. He's supported her the whole time so he's got a right to do what he wants. She sure didn't have any problem spending $100 to have her hair done. >>



I agree, but then again I'm single lol

Wondo

Please remember that marraige is a bond between man and woman. Each entrusts the other with his/her life , both body and soul. To desecrate this sacrament with a blatant gauntlet to the ground would not be looked kindly upon by the church or God. When that point comes when you feel the need to make a purchase of which your spouse disaprove, remember, do not belittle her with confrontational, testosterone-fed chest puffing. Lie.

fcloud

My wife supports my decisions. I let here know what is going on, what I am buying, and she is fine with it! She supports my hobbies, and I support her's.

ColonialCoinUnion

Which one of you is being unreasonable?

Are you trying to spend money on coins that you need to pay your mortgage? Buy food? Repair your hypothetical leaky roof? If so, I think she has a point.

On the other hand, if you are talking about spending some of your disposable income that would otherwise be spent on CDs, Miller High Life and sheepskin seatcovers for your Camaro, well, then, I think you ought to sit down with the little lady and talk your way through this.

In my vast experience, however, its usually the coin collector who is addicted, spending out of control and behaving recklessly. If thats you, cut it out.

ealandg

I included my husband in my madness. A few years ago I spotted a nice flowing hair $ in Fine that was selling for VG $ at a local dealers. I raved to my husband about the coin and what a good deal it was. He bought it for me for my birthday. I had it slabbed as Fine, which instantly increased the listed value by 25%. Every once in awhile I tell my husband what the current value is. It has almost quadrupled since I got it. He gets all happy and puffed up that he bought it for me.

I have to admit that I usually use the Red Book for the prices because they are slightly higher and I never mention the fact that a lot of my collection has just stayed in about the same $ range...

Russ

<< <i>It has almost quadrupled since I got it. He gets all happy and puffed up that he bought it for me. >>



A classic case of spousal manipulation. I like it!

Russ, NCNE

ealandg

Well, I am a video game widow. My hubby has his video games and I have....Russ.

Seriously, my husband looks nervous when he sees me looking at the big ticket items, but tries to be supportive. I thought he was going to have a heart attack the other night. He saw me drooling over Stuart's beautiful bust dollar with the amazing toning. He started breathing again when he realized I was just talking to you guys and not shopping.

LucyBop

Hmmmmm...

Marry the Kitty...

I've been known to buy a few coinz.....

jbsteven

<< <i>He gets all happy and puffed up that he bought it for me >>

ElectricEye

<< <i>wife won't let me buy coins >>



Yes, but what does your girlfriend say?

XpipedreamR

<< <i>wife won't let me buy coins >>





<< <i>...don't tell her unless she asks >>





<< <i>...as long I don't spend too much >>





<< <i>My wife lets me buy coins...Gotta make her feel sorry for you >>





<< <i>She pretty much lets me buy what I want >>




MAN!!! You guys are all whipped!




Next you're going to tell me that she makes you put the toilet seat down when you're done, too. Geez.

jdp2

Always remember, it is easier to get forgiveness than it is to get permission.

TommyB

DTB!

Bikingnut

Occasionally I have coins sent to my work address.

morganbarber

You might want to take a close look at your collection for pieces you don't need which could be cashed in to buy others.

fullerfun4

I've found I need to buy fewer coins, but each purchase needs to become a more valued experience. Wait longer to get the right coin instead of settling. If it means waiting 6 months or whatever, then each purchase should become a more valued experience because of the expectation.

Bunker

I found that it is easier to ask for forgivness than permission...

ANACONDA

Give her what she wants first (a Louis Voo ton - and yes i know that is spelled wrong - purse, an additional male friend, a new Escalade.....) and she'll give you what you want.

Conder101

<< <i>You might want to take a close look at your collection for pieces you don't need which could be cashed in to buy others. >>


I need ALL of them!! And besides they would be lonely without me. Fortunately I'm single. (And I think we can understand why.)

Hedger

Where is Hepcat city?

MacCrimmon

<< <i>Marry the Kitty... >>

Hmmm! Too bad there wasn't this forum 12 years ago!!




<< <i>Where is Hepcat City? >>

Only a Daddio knows....


All I can say is Mac's poor little church mouse-ette will be honored to be sitting in this Kat's featured auction in about 15-20 years.

nankraut

Well...I've been married for 46+ yr, and we are more in love than ever. Here's how I solved the problem of buying too many coins over the years: do it on the sneak