Wife factor
sixdart
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How does having a wife affect your collecting habits?
My wife is supportive of my collecting - unless I get out of hand with to many winning bids. You know, when large quanties of cards you need become available on EBAY or that high-end low pop special card finally become listed. We have four children, so card collecting can definitely cause havoc with a budget.
I include her on the decision making process on any major purchase. This policy has worked out well so far, she will often work with me on a compromise. This will sometimes include the sale of a card or two to help finance the new purchase. Anyway, this was never an issue until online auctions and the PSA Set Registry - when graded commons and rare singles came into play.
I posted this because of the recent scattered posts regarding how we all sometimes hide purchases from the "better half".
My wife is supportive of my collecting - unless I get out of hand with to many winning bids. You know, when large quanties of cards you need become available on EBAY or that high-end low pop special card finally become listed. We have four children, so card collecting can definitely cause havoc with a budget.
I include her on the decision making process on any major purchase. This policy has worked out well so far, she will often work with me on a compromise. This will sometimes include the sale of a card or two to help finance the new purchase. Anyway, this was never an issue until online auctions and the PSA Set Registry - when graded commons and rare singles came into play.
I posted this because of the recent scattered posts regarding how we all sometimes hide purchases from the "better half".
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But to answer your question, my wife is pretty supportive. She knows down deep that building sets off ebay etc is what I enjoy doing, so as much as I make fun of her, she is overall pretty supportive.
I just don't bother showing her the cards. She could care less that, a card in the case of my 1911 collection, is 90+ years old or not. But then again I really could care less about the new shoes she bought. So it all works out.
Thats why having these boards is so great. Its like when I was a kid and could talk about cards and trade them with buddies. Here we can do those things 24 hours a day if we want....and we don't have to worry about making that one last trade before our mom comes and pick us up.
I consult her before I plunk down a $4000 bid on a set, and that consultation usually comes with a plan outlining what the cost will be after buying, grading and selling off the leftovers when I'm done.
Its made much easier by the fact that we already own three houses and we both bring in pretty nice salaries without any kids.
Sets - 1970, 1971 and 1972
Always looking for 1972 O-PEE-CHEE Baseball in PSA 9 or 10!
lynnfrank@earthlink.net
outerbankyank on eBay!
I have a feeling that June 2 is going to change my collecting efforts dramatically ....
<< <i>I include her on the decision making process on any major purchase. >>
Tisk, tisk, tisk
<< <i>work with me on a compromise. >>
Tisk, tisk, tisk
<< <i>I consult her >>
Tisk, tisk, tisk
<< <i>I basically need to ask my wife >>
Tisk, tisk, tisk
Guys, I'm just not liking the responses so far
married?
Sets - 1970, 1971 and 1972
Always looking for 1972 O-PEE-CHEE Baseball in PSA 9 or 10!
lynnfrank@earthlink.net
outerbankyank on eBay!
It's all a matter of training
<< <i>FB, Mrs. Gemmint is very obedient (usually) and always accepting of the card collecting habit . >>
<< <i>It's all a matter of training >>
Gemmint man - I am sure since you have things so well in hand you have no objections if we foward these quotes to the Mrs...
I am lucky in the fact that I have almost paid off my mortgage and nearly finnished saving for my kids college (they are 2 and 4) and we both work in very well paying jobs...
My wife is generally supportive of my card collecting habits, and we kind of have evolved into a don't ask don't tell type of arangement...
As long as I pay my share of the bills, put some money in the kids savings accounts, and continue to add to our investments things are generally fine...
However she will comment when I am in a heavy buying mode about all the buble envelopes we receive in the mail and the fact that she has not bought anything for herself in months... But thankfully most nights I am home before her and she never sees the envelopes....
I could not ask for a better mate when it comes to supporting my habit though. She attends shows with me, has a great eye for aesthetics of cards, and gets pretty happy if I get some Rose cards I need.
I hate to admit it, but she is not a big fan of the 70 Kelloggs set I started last year. She is starting to appreciate the set - slowly.
Reading this forum, which led me to switch from modern to vintage collecting, has enlightened me to the fact that I can collect and have an investment at the same time. It is hard to go wrong with low population cards and the beauty of vintage items has truly enhanced my collecting experience.
My wife now enjoys that same aspect of my collecting and often asks for frequent updates on my individual set's progress. She looks upon certain cards as a form of art, especially the ones with water colored backgrounds and images. Maybe because I am building sets she sees this more as a task that needs to be completed vs. purchasing the next rookie card.
I guess that it is nice that she takes interest in my hobby. The way I read some posts now, some women get card collecting but still do not understand our fascination with watching sporting events?
aconte
<< <i>However she will comment when I am in a heavy buying mode about all the buble envelopes we receive in the mail and the fact that she has not bought anything for herself in months... But thankfully most nights I am home before her and she never sees the envelopes.... >>
Luxury, you mean you don't have her open the packages and lay out the cards for you by the time you get home (along with your slippers and cigar/pipe)? What's that like?
Christmas is particularly rough because the holiday expenses go through the roof. In addition, dealers and collectors come out with bulk sales during this period even though competitive prices are difficult to be had (I still don't understand this phenomenon?). Unfortunately, I am limited in taking advantage of many bargains during this time due to the "doubling effect" on my family budget.
Ron
Now that I'm in the market for buying a house, I've managed to sell over 250 PSA cards in the past 3 months. Rick at MINTState just sold over 100 for me and is selling a few of my PSA 10s on eBay as we speak... though I'm a power seller myself, all this home buying stuff is taking all my time (I can only sneak peeks at this board during work every so often - no more time once I get home)
She's lovin all the money that's comin in... I'm a little sad to see it all go, but I'm surprised how easily I'm getting over it...
I *STILL* have my 73 T Reprint set ('53s).... anyone interested at all before I go to ebay?!
I've always kept my collecting habits well hidden from my wife. Early on, she made it clear that she didn't appreciate spending our hard earned cash on crappy old cardboard left over from a previous generation. So I've gone underground with my habit.
NOW, COME TO FIND OUT, SHE'S BEEN LIQUIDATING MY COLLECTION OVER THE PAST TWO YEARS USING MY EBAY ID!!!!!!
Nearly all of my beloved cards have been sold on ebay without my knowledge. I'm in the process of compiling a complete list of ebay transactions (Peg at ebay and their attorneys have been very helpful so far).
For anyone that has purchased an item from me, it will be coming back to me much sooner than you think. One of your local constables will soon be delivering a summons for you to appear in court and bring the card(s) with you.
Just kidding.
i actually started to believe you....ive seen women do crazier things
Beware of Evil HR managers offering direct deposit.....Muhahahaha
RobBob
JEB
happily single (off and on) since 1996
<< <i>FB, Mrs. Gemmint is very obedient (usually) and always accepting of the card collecting habit
It's all a matter of training
The wife doesn't care much about my spending habits but my girlfriend gets annoyed with it!
That was great! I was in our den laughing my head off, who pop's her cute head in with a, what's so funny?
I read it to her and what do you think she said? "Is that true". I could see her thinking (I could do that). I'm going back underground!
Wife Factor... We have a joint checking account. We have seperate credit card accounts. I don't open her mail and she doesn't open mine.
I have a personal checking account in my name only=ebay=buying from dealers. Different bank than our joint account.
We built a house together, buy cars together, vacation together. We've had three children together. We trust each other completely.
I have my hobby and she has her's (shopping in Boston with our teenage daughter). She does all the joint utility, mortagage and all other bills. I pay my credit cards and she pay's her's. I've never (in over 2 decades) had someone call or send a notice for an unpaid bill.
I do my thing, she does her thing and we meet each other in the middle....very simple, I think...
Her only concern is. What do I do with all these cards if you have an accident or a heart attack...(answer) email Toppsgun & Buckwheat.
John
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61 topps 100%
54 topps
63 topps
MVP's 51-present 100%
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1961 topps 100%
Moto,
Buckwheat???? He's #1. I'm #10 and a poor showing at that. I need your cards more than Buckwheat does!!! Ask your wife what would she rather have in case of your premature demise? A ton of money (Buckwheat) or a good, loving home (Toppsgun) for your '61 set?
On second thought, don't ask her. Just put me in your will.