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co1lectorco1lector Posts: 4,948
in Buy, Sell & Trade - Cards & Memorabilia
There's a HOT chick I used to talk to online a LOT (that lives about 1 1/2 hrs from me). I sometimes go up where she lives to visit a relative of mine, so I mentioned that maybe we could do something together, and she agreed.

The problem is that she decided to go back with her ex. Well, after a few months, she's had 2 miscarriages with him, and he doesn't care and isn't with her anymore. Now she's contacting me again and wanting to do the same stuff we agreed to do BEFORE she went back with him.

I think I was really starting to care a LOT for her before she went back to her ex, but now I'm thinking I shouldn't be anymore than friends with her.



What do you all think?
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  • TGray22TGray22 Posts: 1,196
    Spend some time with her, THEN make my decision (based on what happens with the 2 of us)
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  • RemsterRemster Posts: 1,574
    Stay away...she still has feelings for this other guy and will for some time...you will be a "rebound" relationship and those usually go sour...considering your past feelings for her,if you get involved with her you'll end up getting those feelings back and will get hurt in the end.

    She also sounds like maybe she is needy? Looks to me like it is better to let it go
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  • KLS23KLS23 Posts: 1,581
    Aaron,

    Hey man, I hate to tell you but it sounds like you are her fall back plan. She probably thinks of you as nice and safe....but probably doesn't want anything permanent with you. I know because I have been that guy before....it happens a lot with really attractive women who think just a little too highly of themselves and think they can have any man they want. Next guy that comes along that is exciting to her and you will be out again....

    My advice would be....if you are able to spend some time with her and not get attached....then go for it and have some fun if you know what I mean. If you think that you will start to genuinely become attached to her, don't do it.....just stay friends and leave it at that.

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  • RonDogRonDog Posts: 29
    Always follow your gut instinct and let the chips fall where they may cause only you can make the right decision for yourself.

    Regardless of what happens with this particular situation, you're going to be the one to learn from the experience and take that with you for future realtionships.

    You'll benefit from the choices YOU make for yourself and be able to pass that on to your children.

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  • CyphilissbCyphilissb Posts: 250
    I think the best choice is to tell her how you feel, and see how she reacts. Its not always the easiest thing to do, but it will clear the air very quickly. If she hears how you feel she will either 1) feel the same about you and then your set, or 2) not feel the same way and that would end things and you wouldn't have to waste anymore time with her. (JUST FRIENDS ALMOST NEVER WORKS!) just my opinion though. Good Luck! Let us know how it turns out.
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  • mcdee2mcdee2 Posts: 1,150 ✭
    Meet up with her.. as Ken stated... you will be rebound guy... and usually rebound guy scores image but doesnt last long.. its a win win..
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  • CARDJUNKIE3CARDJUNKIE3 Posts: 701
    Don't kiss her a$$,and above all, be true to yourself.
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  • co1lectorco1lector Posts: 4,948
    update:

    I told her how I felt. She said she was "sorry". Apparently she's been trying to contact me for like the last week and a half.

    I told her I wouldn't be a "back-up", and she said, "hell no its not like that at all". Then she asked, "well, what now?"



    She says she "hopes for the best". I asked her what that was, and she said "for this to work." Then, she asked if I ever think about her. She "says" she knows she f'd up and that she's sorry. She asked for my forgiveness.



    I decided to ask what we would do if we were to meet next time I came down. All she keeps saying is "i would love it". Then she said "maybe go to the beach or chill somewhere".

    What do you guys think?
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  • NaturlBrnTrderNaturlBrnTrder Posts: 1,149
    If you really like her, give her the chance to make it up to you. Life is about taking chances and learning from them. See where it goes. But don`t fall all the way unless you are sure thats what she wants also. Don`t use her, and don`t be used by her. Being used and dumped is the worst pain you will ever have other than a loved one passing on. Hope for the best for you, NBT
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  • uwftke26uwftke26 Posts: 3,002
    You should add an "avoid her like the plague" option. Let me get this straight, she got pregnant once, and had a miscarriage. So what does she do? Keep screwing! I mean seriously, what an idiot. With an attitude like that, she's probably got something by now from sleeping with tons if guys. Plus, meeting people from online is mad sketchy in the first place. Avoid, avoid, avoid. Also, any truly hot chick wouldn't need to meet any guys on the internet, you just know she's going to be a big time fugly (female ugly).
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