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OT: Parents.....please hug your kids tonight

I'm sorry for bringing this here, but this is where I spend most of my time, and I just need to type.

Please understand, I'm not asking for sympathy or any comments, I just don't know any other's that I might see as my friends at 1:45 a.m. to talk to.

Parents, please go hug your kids, give them a kiss, and tell them you love them, and always will, no matter what hell they might put you through. A parents love is a constant that they need to know is there no matter what.

A couple of hours ago, I got a phone call from my grandfather....."David, I have some bad news....."

I'm not going to get into specifics to the phone call, because frankly, I don't feel any of you should have to read them, but my father has killed himself. At age 26, I don't know how to feel about it. I am sad, mad, confused, and stunned. I want to cry, I want to hit something, and I want to just sit in a dark corner by myself. I want to see the light of day, and see the people I love. I just left my daughter's bedside after watching her sleep for over an hour. That was one of the best hours I have ever spent out of my life. My father was never around for me, and frankly, I didn't know a whole lot about him. I was raised by my grandparents (some of you might now, might now, John & Frances Mudge, of Houston Texas, they owned the old Royal Coins on Beechnut { I believe}). My father never hugged me, never really showed me that he loved me, and at this point in time, I am feeling a deep void that no child of yours should ever have to feel.

So please, show your children as much love that is humanly possible, you will never regret it. Tell them you love them every chance you get, because unfortunately, you or them will ever know when the last chance to say it will come.

Thank you for giving me someplace to spill my guts, and my feelings, and I know that your sympathy is there, so no need to show it, I just had to type.

Sincerely,
David Mudge

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  • RKKayRKKay Posts: 3,017 ✭✭✭
    I'm so sorry to hear the horrible news, David. Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this awful time.
  • AtcBobAtcBob Posts: 228
    David,
    Just remember one thing. Nothing is your fault. Do not start to now ask yourself all the why questions. Your fathers ill=fated liefe was due to his own choosing. Nothing you did or could have done would have changed it.

    Just make sure you never turn your back on your kids. Make it a life quest now to always, I mean always, see the good through the bad.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this horrible and tragic time.

    God Bless you

    Bob
  • David,

    I do not have the words to describe how badly I feel for your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences.

    Jim
  • bozboz Posts: 1,405
    David, Your wish is my command!

    Sorry

    Boz
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  • david,

    i'm sorry you had to go through that. no one should. wish i didn't have to go through this situation with my father now. we've never talked one on one about personal stuff with any decent result even though we still see each other nearly every day. oh well. there's more to say but why bother.
    hope you can recouperate within 5 or 6 years.

    adieu,
    john
    Life's a journey, not a destination.
  • Please accept my deepest sympathies on your loss.
  • Cam40Cam40 Posts: 8,146
    I am so sorry to hear such terrible news about your Dad.
    Try to find it in your heart to forgive your Dad for all this.
    He must have been in tremendous pain to feel that this is what needed to be done.
    I,m sure part of that pain was never really showing you he DID love you but just didnt know how to show it.
    I probably did meet him if he was at Royal Coins. I go there from time to time and everyone there has always been
    very friendly and helpful.
    Please except my condolences David and PM me it I can help in any way.
  • David,

    I am sorry for your loss and that it is such a sad memory that you will have to carry with you. You will be in my prayers. Please take comfort in knowing that your children will never experience such a tragedy.

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  • David,

    Sorry to hear about your loss.

    Rich
  • David,
    I am truly sorry to hear of the loss of your father. I lost my 16 yr old son 5 years ago to a car accident. It still makes my blood boil at times today and always will. We have to remember that all things happen for a reason. We don't know what that reason may be but we just have to accept it. Also remember it is OK to cry. I'm 48 yrs old now and feel no embarrassment at all when I cry. Unfortunately it will have to be something you have to live with the rest of your life. Only time will heal the wounds. Give it time!!
    My prayers are with you and your family.
    AL
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  • david, I don't know you but God does. He will bless and strengthen you. My sincere condolences and my prayers are yours. God bless you, Mike
  • Sorry to hear of such news. My prayers go out to you and your family............Ken
  • I am sorry for your loss, David. I'm very glad you took the time to share it with us. The forum is one of the places that bind us together.

    I lost my father a few years ago, too. Take care of yourself and your family. I know I don't know you, but by your comments it seems as though you're a good dad, so keep up the good work with your own children. They'll always appreciate you.
  • maddogalemaddogale Posts: 859 ✭✭
    David, what ever you do from this day forward, remember your words....take longer looks at your kids sleeping, longer hugs, and then remember to hug yourself....you need it too. Don't beat yourself up about it, though I know it is easier to say from this side, take the time to better enjoy your grandparents, they are the ones who raised you, and they will guide you best in these trying times. Mine are gone now, but the nights we all sat around the kitchen table drinking coffee and talking politics, the great depression, farming, etc...were some of the most cherished memories for me. Take your memories and use them as your strength...God bless you and yours in this time of grief.
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  • rkfishrkfish Posts: 2,617 ✭✭✭
    David,

    You and your family are in our prayers!
    Parents, please go hug your kids, give them a kiss, and tell them you love them, and always will, no matter what hell they might put you through. A parents love is a constant that they need to know is there no matter what.
    Whatever is down the road for you.....don't ever forget these words you posted!
    Steve

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  • Sorry about your loss.image

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  • dldallendldallen Posts: 359 ✭✭
    David,

    I was in your very shoes three years ago. I'm still searching for answers but have learned to go forward, as you will. As stated earlier, accept no guilt - we are not totally responsible for the actions of others. Hang in there as better days are coming. Peace, Dave
  • Our thoughts and heartfelt prayers are with you David image
  • MadMonkMadMonk Posts: 3,743
    Sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you, now.
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  • AskariAskari Posts: 3,713
    Our earnest prayers and wishes for your and your family's healing are with you, David!! I know you are left with a terrible baggage of unresolved, complicated, and tumultuous feelings which can't be easily resolved without your father's presence and participation. There will be considerable frustration and anger mixed in with your grief as so many "might still possibly be's" now will not be. I do not know your relationship with God, but I strongly encourage you to see your pastor or other counselor to help you unravel the chains of dashed hopes and expectations and overcome them, not the other way around. Anger is a prison that can consume you and will be an acid to your soul if you do not take the time to deal with it ... and you are blessed with family and children of your own who do love you and care to show it ... and will need it from you in return. God bless you and your family and hold you close in this time of grief.

    Mark
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  • jy8sjy8s Posts: 113 ✭✭
    David,

    Sorry to hear about your loss.

    Scott
  • ccrccr Posts: 2,446
    I`m sorry to hear about your painful loss. It`s never easy to lose a parent. It`s also never easy to understand the hidden recess` of what people go through and keep private. Staying close to your church, family, and friends will make this tring time easier to cope with. Talking about it with church members, family, and friends will help too. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
  • image My deepist thoughts are with you and your family


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  • mnmcoinmnmcoin Posts: 2,165


    << <i>david, I don't know you but God does. He will bless and strengthen you. My sincere condolences and my prayers are yours. God bless you, Mike >>



    ditto.

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  • David, you have my deepest sympathy.

    Dan
  • lathmachlathmach Posts: 4,720
    I tell my kids every day I love them. Daughter 33, Sons 30 and 15.
    Just wish I could tell my wife I love her one more time.

    Ray
  • I want to thank all of you for the sympathy and the prayers, it means more to me than any of you will know. Now that I'm 1500 miles from home, in a place in Texas I don't want to be in, you all have made it tolerable. Bless you all, and your families.

    Again, thank you.

    -David

    P.S. To lathmach....I wish you could too.
  • orevilleoreville Posts: 12,081 ✭✭✭✭✭
    David: Today, I began a written contract with my 17 year old daugthter that I would get or receive 3 hugs a day if I did certain things for her. This ends a 1 year standoff in which we had nearly no hugs.

    Our other daughter, a severely autistic girl always freely gave hugs when asked.

    All this happened without knowing about your loss. I am also about to lose my Dad who is nearing 85 and in frail health.

    You are so lucky to still have your grandfather. I adored my grandparents as well.

    Make sure you give him a hug every night!!!

    God bless you and your family.
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